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Post by Justin on Nov 9, 2004 18:15:40 GMT -5
Do what cha gotta do.
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Divine Justice
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Post by Divine Justice on Nov 10, 2004 17:31:17 GMT -5
It doesn't bother me and yes I would date outside of my race. i feel if we have something in common why not give it a try.
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Post by jamadianUK on Nov 11, 2004 12:26:34 GMT -5
Don't worry Just, I got given a rabbit to hold me down by my workmates , a few have been to OZ & know I won't find no 'Blacker the berry' over there .
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Post by Justin on Nov 12, 2004 15:37:39 GMT -5
lol ;D
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Post by Fela on Jun 21, 2005 10:50:50 GMT -5
I am bi-racial and have dated many different races , although I'm getting married soon, I have to say I would continue to be open . My only issue have been cultural differences ...
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Post by jamadianUK on Jun 21, 2005 13:01:32 GMT -5
I've dated mixed race guys and found them to be the most complex as well as the most enlighting of all. When I say mixed race I don't just mean African-European, I mean Asian-African/European-Middle East/ Pacific-Carribean, etc I'm talking the gumbo pot of identity. I'm always seen as the open minded bush babe from Don city, so I 'm open to anything.
My last boyfriend's parents were both of mixed parentage ( European Carribean-Black Carribean ), he saw himself as Black, and would cuss you out if you said oitherwise.
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Post by Justin on Sept 11, 2005 19:30:19 GMT -5
Here in Portland, there are a lot of bi-racial people, but the bi-racial guys who could pass for white if it were not for their kinky hair always seem to claim they are white. And if questioned they get really upset. I don't understand why can't you just be both...be bi-racial?
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Post by Fela on Sept 12, 2005 5:47:21 GMT -5
That drives me crazy , but I know speaking for myself I have family that speak of my *other-side* in whispers and insist that I shouldn't tell {or *admit* , like there's something wrong } people that I 'm bi-racial...cause I *pass* They think if we don't speak about it IT will go away ! Having heard this since childhood made me fiercely proud of my heritage , but for some folks it beats them down, it makes them feel shameful. And if they are alienated from the non-white side of their blood they have nothing or very little to balance it out . I just wish families wouldn't mess up the kids with their bull-shit issues !
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Post by Justin on Sept 12, 2005 15:14:25 GMT -5
just wish families wouldn't mess up the kids with their bull-shit issues ! I agree. They should be taught to be proud of both sides and not feel they have to choose a side because they are both.
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Post by Fela on Sept 12, 2005 17:05:50 GMT -5
indeed !
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honeyrain
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Post by honeyrain on Jan 21, 2006 21:21:09 GMT -5
I' very cautious of interracial dating and here goes why. My mom is black bringing into the marriage my two sisters from a marriage with a black guy. My dad is white. So lil' ol me came along. Although my dad loved my mother [at some point i think or at least hope so as they were married for almost 20yrs] I also saw how he treated her. He didn't want her to learn the language of his country [but my mom picked it up and learned through my sisters and me and now speaks like a native], he didn't want her to work. He made sure she was dependend on him [ensuring further pregnancies]. As there where hardly a lot of blacks in the area we lived she was like a trophy: she used to model before and was darkskinned, tall and stunning [still is]. His dad, grandfather was a nazi but my nan was an angel. She didn't see colour and she was the only one who accepted all of us with open arms. So I am not saying don't do it or its not real. Sometime it is sometimes it isn't. Sometimes love is blind but your eyes are not and you get hung up on the exotic look of your partner. Thats why I as a black woman decided after giving it a try [not that i was looking too] I would only choose a black man. I didn't like being looked at as exotic. Don't get me wrong there are some beautiful men out there. But I love my peoples...lol... fo'real i need someone who relates to me my struggles, my spirit, my fire, I m with Slim on that, no one has been able to handle me aside from two exeptions and being that I am living with the second exeption that really only brings the number back down to 1! And what a beautiful black man he is....lol. Maybe it is do that my beginning and end to me is my mother. I went from being a daddies girl in the first few years to mammas girl. My father and I are fire and water. Everything positive in my life had to do or came and still comes from my mother. I learned from my dad to always be on guard, always be ready for the unexpecteded but because of him I also had to learn to trust men. Water under a bridge I am richer for all of my experiences. And some people are really colourblind when it comes to love and its a beautiful thing.
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honeyrain
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Post by honeyrain on Jan 21, 2006 21:38:42 GMT -5
they have nothing or very little to balance it out . I just wish families wouldn't mess up the kids with their bull-shit issues ! [/quote] I hear what your saying and I agree. I used to hate my complexion. I thought I was ugly. I wasn't darkskinned like my mother and I didn't look beautiful like her. If you read my post it hints that the other half of my gene pool doesn't have much good coming from it. I resented my white half because it meant to me I looked like my dad and his family which comes from a nazi background. I realized later that my parents maybe didn't work because of how my dad has been brought up and that dispite loving my mother at some point it wasn't enough to get passed what was so implanted in their head in child hood. It occured to me that it must have been major for my dad to marry my mother at that time it just didn't work in the end. But what came later was unexusable on his behalf. Anyhow I did figure out that I needed to accept all of who I am and where I come from. I still call myself a Black Cosmopolitan Urbanite [b.c.u.]because thats who I am. And figuring out that i look like a caramel younger version of my mom helps because my dad really was ugly and that had nothing to do with white that came from his character within and shone through externally..... Forgive but don't forget a B.C.U. @ peace
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Post by Auset on Feb 7, 2006 9:18:35 GMT -5
Wow this is a deep topic, I'll have to tell you the truth. I would never date a man outside of my race, never have and never will. Now this is not because I am prejudiced or hateful or any other thing that someone may think as to the reason why I wouldn't date outside my race. And to tell you the truth an explination as to why is outside of common understanding. It's just been my personal choice for years. I believed that I would be able to find one black man on my page whom though the world of me and I was able to luck out. Not to say it wasn't hard, because i tell you the things that you go through make you wanna scream but in the same token it wouldn't be different if you were with another race or the same sex because everyone has issues. Thanks for sharing your stories this is good conversation.
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beautyfull1
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Post by beautyfull1 on Feb 9, 2006 10:56:21 GMT -5
I have never dated men other than black men - but who is really 100% black these days. All of my boyfriends was mixed or from the Islands. I had PR, DR, Cuban, Jamaican. I never dated an Asian, or a cablasian (Tiger Woods Type) and never considered being with a Caucasian. I grew up in Islam so those who are familiar with that way of life - Caucasian is not even a thought. I love my Black Man with his troubled self. They may have issues but when you have a Black Man that loves you- he will really hold you UP HIGH!
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Post by jamadianUK on Feb 13, 2006 6:29:21 GMT -5
Well right now I'm only looking to date outside my race. I've had enough of only waiting for a black men, I'm open to offers from all sides. This weekend I went to a grown folks circus, it was refreshing and totaly the kind of thing I love to do something ecentric,different and full of fun. But alas not a black man in sight, and not one could I invite who would have not complianed about something.
So this musiq cartoon freak is looking on the other side. I get apporached daily but guys other than black ALLLLLLLLLLLLLL DAYYYYYYYYYYYYY. So FCUK black men, love ya but next.
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