Post by Simply_Uneque on Mar 23, 2004 10:44:58 GMT -5
Let's give men a break! We've become strong, capable women, yet we still expect the guys to make the first move. And you know -- or you should know -- that a man's ego is a lot more fragile than we thought. With that in mind, look in the mirror and tell yourself this: "It's okay to talk to a guy. In fact, it's great!"
Now that we've established that...yikes, what to say? "Anything! Say anything at all -- we guys will take all the help we can get," says David Copeland, dating coach and coauthor of How to Succeed with Men (Prentice Hall Press, 2000; available at Howtosucceedwithmen.com). "Women think, 'Well, I flicked my hair, licked my lips, and dangled my shoe, and he still didn't bite -- he must not be interested.' That's not necessarily the case. You need to do more, or it's just going to go right over most men's heads."
Really? Yes, says Copeland. "Guys are utterly terrified -- plus they really don't understand what's going on with women. It's a ridiculous combination. You'll be doing a guy a favor if you avoid women's most common mistake -- being too subtle -- and let him know you're interested."
We'll start you off with a quiver full of arrows for you to play Cupid for yourself: Here are some opening lines that might get a guy's attention. But don't you dare get discouraged if they don't work right away. Making contact with the opposite sex isn't easy -- if it were, we'd all be paired off. But you can't succeed if you don't give it a try!
Here are 10 uncheesy pickup lines to get you started. Be creative -- and see which icebreaking approach suits you.
1. "Hi." It seems obvious, but if you make a habit of being friendly across the board, you'll find it easier to start a conversation with someone that really interests you. Sure, you might end up chit-chatting with some random guy you have no interest in, but meeting someone you like is equally possible. And why not hone your conversation skills in the meantime?
2. "Can you close my bracelet for me?" Or "Can you help with this crossword puzzle answer?" or any other plea for assistance. "A guy wants to feel like a provider," says Copeland. "If he can be a hero in your eyes, even for a moment, it'll make his day." And that's sure to ratchet up his interest in you, the one who made him feel that way.
3. "That's a cool pocket-watch. Where'd you get it?" Ask an open-ended question (one that requires more than a grunt for an answer) that makes him get talkin' -- and keep the conversation going from there. (Did he tell you his girlfriend gave him the pocket watch? Keep talking anyway -- he might have a cute brother!)
4. "Don't you think Batman's cooler than Superman because he doesn't have super-powers to fall back on?" Let him be an expert. If a guy is reading something that you know about -- a newspaper story, a novel, or a comic book you remember fondly -- comment on it and let him show you how much he knows.
5. "You've got the new iPod. Should I get the 10 gig or the 30 gig?" "Guys are gearheads," says Copeland. "They love to talk about mechanical things."
6. "Do you think that couple over there is on their first date, or what?" Commenting on something nearby can make a guy feel like he's in the cool crowd with you. But try to be careful about making fun of someone -- that might be his best buddy puffing on that stinky cigar.
7. "Can I sit with you so I won't get hit on?" Not only are you asking for help, you're hammering home the fact that you're desirable. Once you've enlisted his services, you've got a captive audience and can even offer him a "thank you" drink without appearing too forward.
8. "This new Snickers bar is fabulous. You've got to try it." Not only do you seem generous by sharing your candy/cocktail/mixed nuts, you're also awakening his senses -- very sexy indeed.
9. "So, what are you doing here?" When you meet at an event where you're bound to know someone in common -- whether it's a wedding or just a backyard barbecue -- you can use the old so-who-do-you-know game to pave the way to a real conversation.
10. "I never do this, but I think you're cute and I got tired of waiting for you to talk to me." When all else fails, there's nothing wrong with the direct approach. In fact, it's Copeland's favorite. "The drawback is that you're more vulnerable to rejection," he admits. But we're strong, capable women, right? Next fish in the sea, please!
Alright peeps... this is what they have to say. What are some other lines that we use?
Now that we've established that...yikes, what to say? "Anything! Say anything at all -- we guys will take all the help we can get," says David Copeland, dating coach and coauthor of How to Succeed with Men (Prentice Hall Press, 2000; available at Howtosucceedwithmen.com). "Women think, 'Well, I flicked my hair, licked my lips, and dangled my shoe, and he still didn't bite -- he must not be interested.' That's not necessarily the case. You need to do more, or it's just going to go right over most men's heads."
Really? Yes, says Copeland. "Guys are utterly terrified -- plus they really don't understand what's going on with women. It's a ridiculous combination. You'll be doing a guy a favor if you avoid women's most common mistake -- being too subtle -- and let him know you're interested."
We'll start you off with a quiver full of arrows for you to play Cupid for yourself: Here are some opening lines that might get a guy's attention. But don't you dare get discouraged if they don't work right away. Making contact with the opposite sex isn't easy -- if it were, we'd all be paired off. But you can't succeed if you don't give it a try!
Here are 10 uncheesy pickup lines to get you started. Be creative -- and see which icebreaking approach suits you.
1. "Hi." It seems obvious, but if you make a habit of being friendly across the board, you'll find it easier to start a conversation with someone that really interests you. Sure, you might end up chit-chatting with some random guy you have no interest in, but meeting someone you like is equally possible. And why not hone your conversation skills in the meantime?
2. "Can you close my bracelet for me?" Or "Can you help with this crossword puzzle answer?" or any other plea for assistance. "A guy wants to feel like a provider," says Copeland. "If he can be a hero in your eyes, even for a moment, it'll make his day." And that's sure to ratchet up his interest in you, the one who made him feel that way.
3. "That's a cool pocket-watch. Where'd you get it?" Ask an open-ended question (one that requires more than a grunt for an answer) that makes him get talkin' -- and keep the conversation going from there. (Did he tell you his girlfriend gave him the pocket watch? Keep talking anyway -- he might have a cute brother!)
4. "Don't you think Batman's cooler than Superman because he doesn't have super-powers to fall back on?" Let him be an expert. If a guy is reading something that you know about -- a newspaper story, a novel, or a comic book you remember fondly -- comment on it and let him show you how much he knows.
5. "You've got the new iPod. Should I get the 10 gig or the 30 gig?" "Guys are gearheads," says Copeland. "They love to talk about mechanical things."
6. "Do you think that couple over there is on their first date, or what?" Commenting on something nearby can make a guy feel like he's in the cool crowd with you. But try to be careful about making fun of someone -- that might be his best buddy puffing on that stinky cigar.
7. "Can I sit with you so I won't get hit on?" Not only are you asking for help, you're hammering home the fact that you're desirable. Once you've enlisted his services, you've got a captive audience and can even offer him a "thank you" drink without appearing too forward.
8. "This new Snickers bar is fabulous. You've got to try it." Not only do you seem generous by sharing your candy/cocktail/mixed nuts, you're also awakening his senses -- very sexy indeed.
9. "So, what are you doing here?" When you meet at an event where you're bound to know someone in common -- whether it's a wedding or just a backyard barbecue -- you can use the old so-who-do-you-know game to pave the way to a real conversation.
10. "I never do this, but I think you're cute and I got tired of waiting for you to talk to me." When all else fails, there's nothing wrong with the direct approach. In fact, it's Copeland's favorite. "The drawback is that you're more vulnerable to rejection," he admits. But we're strong, capable women, right? Next fish in the sea, please!
Alright peeps... this is what they have to say. What are some other lines that we use?
