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Post by Tori on Apr 13, 2004 22:45:05 GMT -5
She met him in the second grade. they sat at the same table; they sat beside one another at story time on the carpet. They took naps together played outside together...lived in the same housing project. She loved him as soon as she laid eyes on his angelic face...but she didn't like boys yet...did she? The other girls in school were always passing him notes, or being her friend to get to him; he was her best boy! Their moms were friends and would look at the twosome and smile that all knowing smile. Years went by and they grew...together;best friends for life they said. They learned to play ball together...football...basketball...baseball. She realized around sixth grade she wanted him for a 'boyfriend' but she was a tomboy...so she beat him to show her love. Pushed him into lockers called him names...and continued to be his best friend. She had the prettiest face, but she didn't know it...her judgement clouded by insecurity. She wore big baggy clothes to cover up her "baby fat"...the other girls started wearing tight clothes to show theirs off...he started to notice them. He became a star athlete and was on the drumline...so was she...following behind him...waiting. He had many girlfriends...that always made her cry...then they would make him cry...so she had to handle them. By the 8th grade she shed the baby fat through basketball practices...she looked good...she got a lot of attention. His boy started to go after her...he hated that...he wanted to protect her from those guys...she was too stubborn. So she dated them...and was heartbroken again and again. He tried to use his fists to patch her broken heart...so at least she knew he loved her...as a friend that is. High school came and the pattern continued...he was a star...and she was no longer any type of tomboy. She was always on the homecoming court...winning some popularity contest...and they were still best friends. She noticed that all his little girlfriends looked like knock off versions of herself...he would say...you'll like her...she reminds me of you. So why she wondered...is he not with me. Finally she gave up hope on being more than his best friend...and they went on to college. They ran up phone bills talking everyday...she ran up miles on her little corolla going to all his games waaay up in the mountains. She fell in grown-up love with someone else...almost got married...but that too ended in heartbreak. The two spent the weekend together...talking...laughing...just being...with one another. He finally says I've always been in love with you and you have always been in love with me...now she sits in front of her computer screen recreating a lifetime of memories simply to ask one question of you...Is it ok for me to be with him after all we have been through...will this ruin something we having been building all of our lives?
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Post by Simply_Uneque on Apr 15, 2004 11:31:39 GMT -5
I have one straight forward answer for this... "No".
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Post by ariez329 on Apr 15, 2004 13:12:27 GMT -5
i have two simple responses:
1. either it will all turn out good and a healthy relationship will come out of it.... --OR--
2. ya'll will start out good, but the emotional history that ya'll share will be the result of ya'll ending up hating each other...
**this is a situation that you are going to have to follow your heart on..... realize that it could turn out good or bad just like any relationship..... just go with what you feel is best for you**
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Post by Simply_Uneque on Apr 15, 2004 13:16:56 GMT -5
i have two simple responses: 1. either it will all turn out good and a healthy relationship will come out of it.... --OR-- 2. ya'll will start out good, but the emotional history that ya'll share will be the result of ya'll ending up hating each other... *this is a situation that you are going to have to follow your heart on..... realize that it could turn out good or bad just like any relationship..... just go with what you feel is best for you** That is what I mean!!!  |
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Post by Tori on Apr 16, 2004 3:06:13 GMT -5
Thank you for responding...I'm still a little confused...we have been arguing more than usual...these past few days! I don't know...everytime I bring someone new around my mom she's like "He's alright, but Greg's my boy!" I really value her opinion and I find myself thinking those same thoughts...I just don't like owning up to them.
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Post by Auset on Apr 17, 2004 16:01:53 GMT -5
90% of the time the friendship is ruined and the other 10% are fairy tale like.
With going what ariez has already said, you want to consider what there is to loose, and what there is to gain, follow your heart but your head as well. Talk with him and keep comunication open. it can work but you have to put the odds behind you to make it happen.
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Post by jamadianUK on Apr 18, 2004 13:17:07 GMT -5
What do you lose if you choose?
Go get you man,it's built on friendship and the foundation is strong,something might go wrong,but that's what life is all about take a chance,live with no regrets behind you.
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Post by Simply_Uneque on Apr 22, 2004 10:02:10 GMT -5
What do you lose if you choose? Go get you man,it's built on friendship and the foundation is strong,something might go wrong,but that's what life is all about take a chance,live with no regrets behind you. Well spoken!!! Has a decision been made yet? |
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Post by Tori on Apr 22, 2004 17:10:39 GMT -5
we are trying something right now...not quite conventional...but it fits us well...basically not dealing with any labels...just being ourselves...thinking about babies as far fetched as it may sound...thinking hard about babies...I like the way we feel...but...I'm going through a little stage of depression right now...so I can't give any area of my life my all  |
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Post by Simply_Uneque on Apr 23, 2004 11:54:35 GMT -5
we are trying something right now...not quite conventional...but it fits us well...basically not dealing with any labels...just being ourselves...thinking about babies as far fetched as it may sound...thinking hard about babies...I like the way we feel...but...I'm going through a little stage of depression right now...so I can't give any area of my life my all Girl what's wrong? You know we are family... so if you ever need an ear... Holla!!! Take your time with this and if it feels right... go for it!!! |
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