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Post by deepthought74 on Apr 22, 2004 16:51:45 GMT -5
Yesterday while I was down at Spelman chatting with the lovely sisters on campus....I watch brothers pass up these cute sisters....and lately I have noticed that brothers just watch women when they walk by without saying a word....got me to think that they are scared of rejection? Beautiful women intimidate some men!! Am I wrong here?? Rejection comes with the whole talking to women thing...if u cant handle that....then I dont know what to say  ...... |
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Post by Style4ya on Apr 22, 2004 17:36:13 GMT -5
I think men are scared of rejection, but so are the ladies. It all depends on how much self confidence you have. When I was single, I would see guys looking, but they would not approach me. I dont know why. But then again, I am not that comfortable with approaching a man for that matter. I would give a smile or a nice "how you doing?" but that would be the extent of it. I'm shy. If a lot of people think along those lines though, a good thing could be passing you by.
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Post by Craig on Apr 22, 2004 17:44:55 GMT -5
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Post by deepthought74 on Apr 22, 2004 17:55:23 GMT -5
Yep. But half of these sistas won't give you the time of day if you ain't "ballin'". Spelman, eh? Musta been some nice views, deep...   Craig u just dont know!! Some real dimes for sure...but every woman dont care about that ballin shit anyway!! Some do think like that though....but still if u see something u like...u should go after it...whats the worse thing that could happen besides her saying no...I rub off rejection though....too many cute ladies out here to just be living in a cave!! |
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Post by Auset on Apr 22, 2004 20:48:13 GMT -5
I think that brothers are scared of rejection and a successful woman. Thos are the two things they can't handle, their woman shining over them or being dissed by a woman. If I was single I wouldn't go for the guys with the bling. I would go for the guys that are talking about something. Looking at the bigger picture and trying to make life good. So if a brother step to me half stepping I'm going to be the first to let him reject him. Not because I'm trying to diss him but I don't have time for the bss. Feel me?
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Post by Simply_Uneque on Apr 23, 2004 11:53:05 GMT -5
I think that brothers are scared of rejection and a successful woman. Thos are the two things they can't handle, their woman shining over them or being dissed by a woman. If I was single I wouldn't go for the guys with the bling. I would go for the guys that are talking about something. Looking at the bigger picture and trying to make life good. So if a brother step to me half stepping I'm going to be the first to let him reject him. Not because I'm trying to diss him but I don't have time for the bss. Feel me? Girl I couldn't have said it better myself. That is what i am talking about. That is why we sisters... cause you be all up in my head!!! |
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Post by slim on Apr 23, 2004 14:57:30 GMT -5
I've been rejected...but I keep it moving...you aint gonna get everything you want...its about your approach, apprearence, and dialoge...if you have humor...use it...if you are intelligent use it...use your gifts as bait...some fish will bite some will swim pass...but you have to keep fishing...
a successful woman...umm...I like powerful women...all executive looking...thats a big turn on for me...that can be good...I had a girl with money before...she would always pay for shit...and if she would've let me be a man sometimes...maybe it would've worked out...
NOTE to all rich women...we know you balling...but you have to let a man be a man...or his ego will shatter...
if my woman was more successful...I would use her as inspiration...not being in her shadow...because its so much harder for women to climb the corporate ladder..I would commend her...women like men who are secure and confident about themselves...thats what the man if for to provide security and comfort...and if you lacking that...they can smell it a mile away...
craig I feel you on those gold diggers...and I feel you as well deepthought...not all women are like that...only the one who grew without are...if you notice
if you ever take a girl on a date...unlock...open and close her door...and go around the back of the car if she don't reach over to unlock your door...you take her out and dump her ass....I got that from Bronx Tale
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Post by Style4ya on Apr 23, 2004 20:59:33 GMT -5
I've been rejected...but I keep it moving...you aint gonna get everything you want...its about your approach, apprearence, and dialoge...if you have humor...use it...if you are intelligent use it...use your gifts as bait...some fish will bite some will swim pass...but you have to keep fishing... a successful woman...umm...I like powerful women...all executive looking...thats a big turn on for me...that can be good...I had a girl with money before...she would always pay for shit...and if she would've let me be a man sometimes...maybe it would've worked out... NOTE to all rich women...we know you balling...but you have to let a man be a man...or his ego will shatter... if my woman was more successful...I would use her as inspiration...not being in her shadow...because its so much harder for women to climb the corporate ladder..I would commend her...women like men who are secure and confident about themselves...thats what the man if for to provide security and comfort...and if you lacking that...they can smell it a mile away... craig I feel you on those gold diggers...and I feel you as well deepthought...not all women are like that...only the one who grew without are...if you notice if you ever take a girl on a date...unlock...open and close her door...and go around the back of the car if she don't reach over to unlock your door...you take her out and dump her ass....I got that from Bronx Tale Well said Slim. You gave some hints to the females and to the males. I've been told that I was a baller, but dont you have to have money in order to be called that? I admit that I pay for a lot of things, but I will most definitely let him play his part as well. If your my man, and I have some nice things, we both gonna have it. It should be like that on the vice versa also. Good point. |
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Post by Craig on Apr 24, 2004 19:37:38 GMT -5
Not neccessarily. You just got to have the image. You think the n*ggas in the hood that got H2s and Escalades sittin' on 24s got "real" money?
Soime of 'em do, some don't, but that's my point. Ballin' is an image, too.
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Post by Simply_Uneque on Apr 27, 2004 13:47:16 GMT -5
Not neccessarily. You just got to have the image. You think the n*ggas in the hood that got H2s and Escalades sittin' on 24s got "real" money? Soime of 'em do, some don't, but that's my point. Ballin' is an image, too. Ya'll think Imma baller? |
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Post by Craig on Apr 27, 2004 22:51:51 GMT -5
Ya'll think Imma baller? Where you work at again? And where you shop at? All ya'll be ballin'... ...on the DL, tho'...  |
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Post by Suede on Apr 28, 2004 11:04:07 GMT -5
I agree with Slim, its all about the timing. You have to be "smooth" in your approach. You do not want to seem as if you are a stalker, but you don't want to come off as a pimp either. You have to balance it. There is no formula for that its just plan chemistry that is involved.
For myself, I will not approach a female the first time I look at her. However if she crossess my path for the second time then I will sit back and watch her from afar. This way I can get a lil bit of info from her body language on who she might be. From this info I will have a "fair size bait" to use for her. This usually works for me.
I would be lying if I said I ain't afraid rejection. Any man that tells you that is blowing it out of his azz!!! When I make that initial contact my heart usually skips a beat and I make sure that I am coming off as myself and not somebody else. In a way that is much harder than singing a song that I barely know in front of a million people. But it feels good to me to do that. Its like a natural high for me. I feel that excitement.
Again, I agree with slim, but you also have to be smooth like water and just flow with whateva comes your way
One Love Fam --- Suede
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Post by Simply_Uneque on May 3, 2004 8:12:07 GMT -5
Where you work at again? And where you shop at? All ya'll be ballin'... ...on the DL, tho'... I work for the third largest Investment company in the world... I shop a lot of places... expensive as Nordstroms and cheap as Walmart... But those that know me know none of that defines me. |
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Post by Style4ya on May 3, 2004 15:17:10 GMT -5
I work for the third largest Investment company in the world... I shop a lot of places... expensive as Nordstroms and cheap as Walmart... But those that know me know none of that defines me. Yeah, you a baller..... I cant afford Nordstom. LOL |
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Post by Simply_Uneque on May 19, 2004 9:59:51 GMT -5
Yeah, you a baller..... I cant afford Nordstom. LOL CTFU... you are too much!!!! And did I Nordstrom... I meant Nordstrom Rack!!!! LOL... just kidding... I shop at both.  |
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