Post by Simply_Uneque on Apr 23, 2004 11:22:47 GMT -5
Yeah, the "sex thing" can get in the way, but that shouldn't keep you from having guy pals. The good far outweighs the bad, and in some cases even the ugly.
The Good:
Low-Maintenance Man: Men are easy friends. There's no competition about who looks better when you're going out, or even if you're just hanging out in the living room. And most guy pals don't want or need up-to-the-minute reports on the minutiae of your life or marathon phone calls that some of your gal pals require. Their just-the-facts-ma'am mentality is refreshing.
Utility Man: You can dress up a man and take him almost anywhere — giving you an instant escort. Whether it's a fancy cocktail party, a cookout or just a random bar crawl, if you've got a guy pal, you've got a no-strings attached escort.
Bonus item: He'll do all that dad stuff like changing light bulbs and fixing your leaking toilet.
Human Resources: Men tend to run with a group. Get in good with his guys and you've got a wider array of potential boyfriends.
Caution: Your fella's fraternal instincts may kick in, causing him to declare your intended an ineligible man downfield. (See defending your honor, above).
True Friend: Gents are loyal and dependable. Most likely he'll be there when he says he will. He'll defend your honor to the death. And there's nothing like a big hug from a big lug when you're feeling like crap. He'll also tell you the truth if you ask him his opinion — and he'll be darned cute about trying not to hurt your feelings.
Learning Lab: Male friends can provide you with special insight to the male ego, helping you steer clear of universal gaffes and giving you a better understanding of what makes the other gender tick.
The Bad:
I Don't Wanna Hear It: Your boy may regale you with tales of his dating and mating activities, or a detailed discussion of the attributes of this month's bunny or cover girl. Grin and bear it — he's a guy after all.
The Wrong Impression: You might be viewed as "just one of the guys" and thus taken out of the dating game. Or, perhaps worse, fellas outside your crowd might assume you're a big-time party girl who craves attention from the opposite sex.
The Ditch: Much as we love 'em, guys are guys. If he sees a woman he wants, he may go after her and leave you sitting at the bar.
Tip: Establish ground rules prior to any outing to avoid sticky situations.
The Ugly:
Dangerous Liaisons: After a night on the town, a particularly emotional situation or a long dry spell, you might find yourselves venturing into more physical territory (remember "When Harry Met Sally"). Something good could come from it, sure, but it's more likely to cause a lot of uneasiness and confusion between you. So try to avoid it.
Prince Charming: Perhaps the worse-case scenario is when one of you is attracted to the other. Do you suffer in silence or let the truth come out? Unless you're pretty sure you both feel the same way, best to adopt a don't-ask-don't-tell attitude.
The Good:
Low-Maintenance Man: Men are easy friends. There's no competition about who looks better when you're going out, or even if you're just hanging out in the living room. And most guy pals don't want or need up-to-the-minute reports on the minutiae of your life or marathon phone calls that some of your gal pals require. Their just-the-facts-ma'am mentality is refreshing.
Utility Man: You can dress up a man and take him almost anywhere — giving you an instant escort. Whether it's a fancy cocktail party, a cookout or just a random bar crawl, if you've got a guy pal, you've got a no-strings attached escort.
Bonus item: He'll do all that dad stuff like changing light bulbs and fixing your leaking toilet.
Human Resources: Men tend to run with a group. Get in good with his guys and you've got a wider array of potential boyfriends.
Caution: Your fella's fraternal instincts may kick in, causing him to declare your intended an ineligible man downfield. (See defending your honor, above).
True Friend: Gents are loyal and dependable. Most likely he'll be there when he says he will. He'll defend your honor to the death. And there's nothing like a big hug from a big lug when you're feeling like crap. He'll also tell you the truth if you ask him his opinion — and he'll be darned cute about trying not to hurt your feelings.
Learning Lab: Male friends can provide you with special insight to the male ego, helping you steer clear of universal gaffes and giving you a better understanding of what makes the other gender tick.
The Bad:
I Don't Wanna Hear It: Your boy may regale you with tales of his dating and mating activities, or a detailed discussion of the attributes of this month's bunny or cover girl. Grin and bear it — he's a guy after all.
The Wrong Impression: You might be viewed as "just one of the guys" and thus taken out of the dating game. Or, perhaps worse, fellas outside your crowd might assume you're a big-time party girl who craves attention from the opposite sex.
The Ditch: Much as we love 'em, guys are guys. If he sees a woman he wants, he may go after her and leave you sitting at the bar.
Tip: Establish ground rules prior to any outing to avoid sticky situations.
The Ugly:
Dangerous Liaisons: After a night on the town, a particularly emotional situation or a long dry spell, you might find yourselves venturing into more physical territory (remember "When Harry Met Sally"). Something good could come from it, sure, but it's more likely to cause a lot of uneasiness and confusion between you. So try to avoid it.
Prince Charming: Perhaps the worse-case scenario is when one of you is attracted to the other. Do you suffer in silence or let the truth come out? Unless you're pretty sure you both feel the same way, best to adopt a don't-ask-don't-tell attitude.
