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Post by Auset on Nov 19, 2003 12:25:59 GMT -5
Depending on who it is I wouldn't tell them if their man was cheating on them because people flip when it comes to their man. But it's a catch 22 because if they found out you knew then they get mad like they would have listened. But most times I keep my mouth shut because people love to make excuses for someone.
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Post by Tori on Nov 19, 2003 14:00:55 GMT -5
I didn't tell my best friend that the love of her life called me one night and tried to get with me until yesterday. It happened in about 2000 or 2001 but I just couldn't break her heart like that, and at first I thought it was an April Fool's joke. I kept waiting for her to bring it up so I could say I never fell for it but she never brought it up. Then recently he was visiting from Atlanta and they were getting back together and I would have forgotten completely but he was acting strange and then it hit me why. So I mentioned something to her about not trusting him and then she finally drug the rest out of me. She was like it was so grimy for him to be that nasty, that's why she's my best friend! Most females would try to be all mad at you like you brought that on yourself but we are not like that...you know?
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Post by Auset on Nov 19, 2003 14:07:49 GMT -5
See that was a good situation, I called one of my good friends a while ago and told her that this guy that when she is in CT they are an item but when she is not there he has a girlfriend. And that he has had the girl for a minute, don't you know she tried to make all these tired excuses talking about well if he is with her when I'm there the whole weekend she is no where to be found. I was like, see that's why I don't tell you nothing. Plus she is known for stepping to the girl instead of to the man.
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Post by ariez329 on Nov 19, 2003 14:38:30 GMT -5
I actually told one of my best friend's that her boyfriend cheated... And he produced a child that she didn't know about...
It was one of the hardest things I ever had to do but I had to tell her... I never gave it a second thought as to whether or not to mention it to her... I made sure I had all of the facts before I told her... Luckily she believed me and she went and asked him what was up, and of course he denied it... He denied the child and everything... The girl actually called her right after I told her and let her know that they were together and had a child....
But I feel as though if its my FRIEND I will tell them anything... Once I tell you that one time its up to you to make a decision, after I tell you I'm not mentioning it again...
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Post by The_Realist on Nov 21, 2003 14:03:01 GMT -5
i'm very straight up.. i don't think there's anything that i wouldn't say being that it's the truth... and i ask or that same respect... i can't get mad if that's the truth because it is the truth... i can't duck from it.
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Post by soulofapoet529 on Nov 21, 2003 19:11:56 GMT -5
I cannot tell my best friend that I support her decision to leave her husband, uproot their children for the older married man she has been seeing for the last 4 years. I don't think I've ever been so disappointed about something in my life. If I was in a different place emotionally I might....no I wouldn't! Married has always meant hands off to me. She and her husband were both unfaithful, but this...I'm just speechless.  |
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Post by Simply_Uneque on Dec 2, 2003 13:23:16 GMT -5
I am with some of you in saying that I don't think that I would be able to tell my best friend if her man/husband was cheating. That just creates a bad situation all the way around. She may think you want him or are jealous of their relationship.
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Post by ariez329 on Dec 4, 2003 10:44:33 GMT -5
You know what... telling your friend that her man is cheating is hard but with my friend I had to tell her... He had a child and everything so I couldn't just let the situation slide... But before I told her I made sure that it was in fact true, and I didn't suggest that she leave him or anything. I just told her what I knew and let her handle it from there.
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Post by Simply_Uneque on Dec 4, 2003 10:47:54 GMT -5
You know what ariez... that was probably the best way to handle it. If you just put the information out there for them to do with it what they so choose, then hey really can't hold you responsible.
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Post by Divine Justice on Dec 7, 2003 20:28:46 GMT -5
I don't think there is anything i wouldn't tell a friend. They way I see it if someone's reaaly your friend the truth just has to hurt. Their reaction will tell you how much of a friiend you really are to them. It maybe hard but if life was easy, pain would kill us...
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Post by khandi on Dec 15, 2003 10:02:27 GMT -5
I need to tell my friend that I think she is making the wrong choice and marrying the wrong guy. I think she's with one guy for all the right reasons but her heart isn't in it! AND I think she is in love with another AND I think the other is her soulmate AND she needs to stop fighting fate before she ends up miserable! But hey these are just my thoughts!
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