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Post by Auset on Nov 26, 2003 11:01:39 GMT -5
Me, I say little to my mother, it's nothing personal its just that I'm the type a person whom keeps things in. Plus everynow in then when I tell my mother something it gets back to me five hundred miles away all twisted and I can't stand that.
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Post by soulofapoet529 on Nov 26, 2003 21:17:11 GMT -5
I had to reply to this. I am a facilitator in the High School class at my church. The teen-age girls are so shut down emotionally that it defies reason. Their biggest complaint...I can't talk to my mother. My mother doesn't listen. She feels like because I'm the age I am I don't have an opinion. I actually had a 16 yr old tell me that she and her mother lived in the same house and barely said a word for close to a year. I have a good relationship with my mother now, but at that age I was the same way. There are still certain subjects that are taboo, but I try very hard to keep the lines of communication open. I'm about emotional honesty and not leaving any communication unsaid. It can be painful, but at the end of the day or when all is said and done if something happens to one of us, I won't have any regrets about what I didn't say.
peace,
t.
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Post by The_Realist on Nov 29, 2003 14:34:35 GMT -5
well... my mother's crazy... we do not have a good relationship.. and last night just goes to show proof of that.... last night she poisoned me.. her aim was to embarrass me.. check it: my 1/2 sister is home for Thanksgiving.. her and my mother have a real good relationship and they like to put the jokes on me, all the time. well, it's a Friday night.. i was getting ready to go out, and i asked my mother, "Ma, can you please get my medication together for me to take because i'm getting ready and i'm short on time" so, she got them together and i took them.. it's a lot of pills for this and that.. asthma and other things.. well, i'm out and about with my friend.. and i started to feel sick.. so, we stopped up at Wendy's because i had to put something in my stomache.. so, i ate.. and only got maybe two french fries and i told my friend "whoa, you gotta pull over.." so, my friend pulls over to the Southside Plaza parking lot, and there i am getting sick.. When i was done, i called my mother and i was like "Maa" (in a sickly tone) and she automatically started laughing talking about "are you sick yet?" and her and my 1/2 Sister were in histarics.. and i was like "hold up... how did you know??" and she, still in histarics, was like "you shouldn't take medication if you don't know what it is" and refused to tell me what she put in there when i asked.. it's now the mid-day after, and i still don't know what they were.. so, i hung up on my mother because they were laughing in my face, and i told my friend.. so, after i got the "nasty" out of the way, i was feeling alil better so, i went to a 24/7 CVS and got a toothbrush, toothpaste, some mouthwash, and a bottle water to brush my teeth.. and then we went to Donut Connection (open 24/7) and got some Ice Cream.. the whole time looking real sick and my hands were trembling.. so, on the way home.. i got sick some more.. and i was dizzy, my hands were trembling, my head was throbbing and felt like it weighed 40lbs... and i couldn't walk a staight path if my life depended on it... i had to have my friend escort me to my front door.. and i came in and went straight to sleep.. woke up today, and i feel absolutely fine, but my mother still finds it hilarious.     |
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Post by Simply_Uneque on Dec 1, 2003 15:50:39 GMT -5
My mother and I use to have the worse relationship.
Now I can honestly say that we are learning how to love and like one another. It has truly taken some time but I believe that it was well worth the wait.
There are things that I do not feel comfortable in speaking to her about. But I am sure with the help of the Lord and much prayer, that too will change.
I am trying to have a close relationship with my own daughters. I want them to be able to talk to me about anything. This too is taking some work but I won't stop trying until I succeed.
The_Realist... I am so sorry that your mother felt it appropriate to do that to you. Just lift her up in prayer and I am sure things will one day change. I could sit here and write a book of all the problems that my mother and I have been through... and yes my younger sister had her hand in some of them. But I thank God everyday that he is changing things. And he can do the same for you.
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Post by Tori on Dec 1, 2003 16:25:24 GMT -5
Me and my mom have a really good relationship mainly becaue I'm nothing like her and my brother. I'm like my dad and since she's not with him I think she appreciates having a little piece of him in me. I talk my moms head off about everything going on in my life and she has become a good listener. She talks my head off about church and I have to admit most of her stories are even funny! I spent the day after Thanksgiving with my mom, my stepmother, my grandmother, and my aunt bootsie. I had the best time talking to them it's like having a whole lot of mommas around and I really appreciate that! I feel like my mom is really my friend not my mom just pretending to be my friend. That's the type of relationship I plan on duplicatiung if I ever have a daughter.
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Post by ariez329 on Dec 4, 2003 10:57:59 GMT -5
I can talk to my mom about any and everything, but I don't... I'm a very private person. Though me and my mother live together I still call her at work everyday. I always talk to her, its just certain things I keep to myself... One thing I love about my mom is that she doesn't judge or criticize... She lets me be me, and she understands my complicated personality
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Post by MAJE on Dec 8, 2003 6:17:44 GMT -5
uh ok this is interesting topic
i did often talk to my mum wenn i was in highschool etc
but things changes in my life
(ps for the one of you who dont know the conversation of me and my mum are son and mum conversation LOL and not MOTHER AND DAUGHTER convos hehe)
things changes because i ran away from home (but that is a different story) and i lost the trust in how parents are
i didnt even trust other person around me to talk about my things
but i am gettin older (lol i dont know if this means wiser) but anyway i did talk to them few days ago after years not talkin to each other
things change(although i cannot forget and forgive the things that has happen in the past )
i am getting older but they are getting older too
i dont have that conversation like i did wenn i was child with her but i am here if they need me and they are there if i need them
E.
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Post by MAJE on Dec 8, 2003 6:19:45 GMT -5
well... my mother's crazy... , ........................but my mother still finds it hilarious. have ya been to the doctor gurl?? to check or something |
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