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Post by Auset on Sept 29, 2003 17:42:32 GMT -5
Let's keep it real, 66% of women whom found out they had HIV in 2001 were african american women. Most of these women contracted the disease from a man whom was their husband, someone she could trust aka someone you shouldn't have to wear a condom with. 2001 that wasn't long ago, only two years and the bad part about it is that the epidemic is spreading. and the only way it is going to decrease is if we talk about it.
I was watching the Ricki Lake show today and this guy that has sex with men swore up and down that he is not gay and he is not bi he is simply a freak. But he also doesn't feel that he has a responsibility to tell his mate and there was another man that was so ashamed of his situation he was behind a screen. He had a girlfriend and a boyfriend for five years.
Now I'm not saying having sex with the same sex is what is causing the spread of the virus as well as other diseases however the down low period is getting serious. A man could be having sex with a woman and bring something home to his wife, so let's talk about this and tell me what do you think.
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Post by Tori on Sept 30, 2003 9:56:28 GMT -5
Girl I watched the same show and you know I was yelling at the screen! People get so wrapped up in the whole hetero/homo/bi-sexual thing that we forget the real issue at hand! If you have made a vow or promise to another person then you HAVE to be real enough to tell them you are stepping out. Personally I think you should be really real and let them know you want to see other people before you dishonor yourself and your relationship or marriage. I know mistakes happen but let your mate know about the mistake because hiding it turns your mistake into deceit!  |
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Post by Auset on Sept 30, 2003 15:38:18 GMT -5
and you know the thing that really kills me is the fact that these are people who have kids, and it's like if you dont' love your your life at least let your mate know that you ready to move on because then they have a choice of sleeping with you.
I want to know the other side of the game, is there anyone whom wants to contribute to this convo and is on the defensive side? Does anyone have a story to share? Jump right on in.
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Post by Dlight on Oct 8, 2003 10:04:57 GMT -5
I mean damn if you are going to step out at least love yourself and protect yourself. How could you come home to the person you are supposedly committed to knowing that you've just laid down with the dogs and could brinmg home fleas. How could you claim you love someone, yet put them in jepoardy by playing with their life. If you gonna step out and you don't have the balls to admit it, at least have the good sense to protect yourself. Even if it doesn't occur to you that you might bring something home to the "one" you "love", at least love yourself enough to protect ya neck.
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Post by ariez329 on Oct 9, 2003 11:55:44 GMT -5
This whole situation is very, very, personal for me...
I was in a relationship with this guy who started to have those tendencies... He became suspect to me... So I had to peace out of the relationship, even though we were together for a long time... Later on (like 2 yrs later) I found out he contracted HIV... I rushed to get tested the same day. Three loooonnnngggg dayS later I got my results... 100% negative...
The bottom line is I take it all as a life's experience and a lesson...That was my wake up call... Now I get tested EVERY 6 months... I don't play. Before this whole situation I was kinda scared to get tested, now its just something that's at the top of my to do list....
Listen up fam...GET TESTED...don't play around this is your life... Get tested and stay protected....
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Post by Auset on Oct 14, 2003 9:37:37 GMT -5
Girl that's a deep story. do you have any hard feelings toward him for what he has done to you or the risk on your life he put you through?
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Post by ariez329 on Oct 14, 2003 9:58:51 GMT -5
You know what, I never had any hard feelings towards him. I don't know why but for some reason I never did. There's always some type of risk when you have sex with someone, no matter how you protect yourself. So I could never place blame on him. I'm just fortunate that I came out of the situation okay. I'm not going to lie, I was a little fu**ed up (emotionally) after going through everything, realizing what could have happened. It's like you really live in a bubble for a minute, reflecting on the could've and the what-ifs.
I know for a while I wouldn't let anyone touch me. I wouldn't let people get to close. For a little while I had a somewhat abnormal fear of germs. I had nightmares for a little while. But that's all over now. Even with all of that I never had hard feelings towards him.
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Post by Simply_Uneque on Oct 15, 2003 13:28:22 GMT -5
Girl I know what you mean. When I was married, I suspected my husband of being out there. Not with other men, but with other females. I started getting tested every three months. I had a standing appointment with my doctors office. They knew what I was there for... and I didn't just get tested for HIV, I got tested for every type of STD they can test you for. It was a terrible way to live, that is one of the reasons I got out. I love and cheish my life too much. And I have to be around to raise my children.
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Post by ariez329 on Oct 15, 2003 13:48:35 GMT -5
Exactly, I get tested for everything. I don't play. Some STD's don't have symptoms so I have to be sure.
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