khandi
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Post by khandi on Nov 4, 2003 15:04:54 GMT -5
Ok I have a friend who has an issue and I can't help her out b/c I feel the same way she does about the situation: She broke up with her fiance and ended up meeting this other guy who fell for her hard! She really likes this other guy, but she ended up getting back with her fiance b/c she loves him. OK, so she let the other guy know but he still wants to be in her life and she does like him. Anyway he was supposed to come spend the weekend with her and he couldn't make it so he sent her a gift ballercars.com/new/2002lexusgs300thumb.jpg[/img] This was in her driveway when she got back from visiting her mom. Basically she hasn't told her fiance and she doesn't want to give it back, should she accept a gift like this from the other guy?
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Post by Simply_Uneque on Nov 4, 2003 16:33:29 GMT -5
Dayum!!!! He sent her that... as a gift?? Reminds me of the episode on the Steve Harvey Show when the guy bought Regina a car as an 1-month anniversary gift. Anyway, in my opinion, if she is not going to be with this guy... period... I think she should return the vehicle. By her accepting this "gift" he may think that he has a chance with her, if not now sometime in the near future. If she is unsure of what she wants to do with the new guy and the fiance', then maybe she needs to step back for a moment, re-evaluate both situations, good and bad and see what she comes up with. Chances are... if she broke off the engagement with fiance', something wasn't quite right with the relationship. And if she is entertaining the idea of keeping the "gift" maybe she feels something for the new guy... maybe. At any rate... she needs time away from both men to think this through. Just tell her... Pros and Cons!!!
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Post by slim on Nov 4, 2003 17:17:59 GMT -5
the question is how long has she known the new dude?...if its less than 6 months...either dude is mr money bags...or mister crazy ass...damn she must make a helluva samwich...sheesh..or he is just a puddy whipped fool...
I wouldn't take his car...he will have leverage...and eventually during a heated arguement...the car will come into the picture...
she should tell her fiance...just outta respect...
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Post by Simply_Uneque on Nov 4, 2003 17:20:30 GMT -5
;D LMBAO @ Mr. Crazy Azz!!!!!
I am cracking my side laughing right now.
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Post by ariez329 on Nov 5, 2003 11:08:37 GMT -5
I would WANT to take the car, but on the real if she is going to stay with her fiance' I don't thinK she should accept it... This whole situation can create some other sh*t that she might not want to deal with. Accepting the gift could eventually make her lose both of them in the long run. New guy will be pissed that she accepted it and stayed with the fiance'. Fiance' will be pissed that another man is buying his woman gifts...
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Post by Auset on Nov 5, 2003 11:28:15 GMT -5
You should tell your girl to let me get that joint and I wont even charge her if she want to come and drive it on the weekends. But if she don't want to let me have it then I would have to say she should return it because for one that is not a present that is a bribe and he know he is wrong for that one. He trying to make it hard for her to choose. But it would be real disrespectful for her to drive her man around in it and he don't know where it came from becuase the other cat could get mad at her and be like yeah that's why I bought that car for her. You know what I mean?
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Post by Tori on Nov 5, 2003 13:59:00 GMT -5
Ok but her fiance and old boy are associates and she really like this car and she really wants to keep it and on the real she really wanted to keep new dude too, but her fiance is going through some real stuff so she got back with him for moral support. the car is sentimental like dude was very attached to this car it was the first one he bought after he started really getting paid and he gave it to her, like he feels she's special you know? Not just some car for the sake of giving her a car but his favorite ride... will it hurt his feelings for her to give it back?
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Post by Auset on Nov 5, 2003 15:20:13 GMT -5
Okay so she should break down the variables The man The fiance The car
The man knew the deal before he got into what he is into. Even though they are feeling each other once you get emotionally attached there is room for casualties. No matter which way you put it someone is going to get hurt in this situation. So should it be him? Did he put himself in this situation by knowing shorty got not only a man but a fiance? He knew the stakes so he still chose to go there.
Next the fiance. Is he just there not knowing what is going on? Is it fair to him to be the butt of a joke if his fiance is rolling around in another dudes car? Now if she wants to keep it real with him she needs to atleast tell him the deal, straight up because if it comes out later and she keeps the car was the ride good enough for her to get the reprocussions? In most situations like this a man can really blow up and it can be ugly.
The car, its material but sentimental. So the guy should understand that now is not the time for her to accept this gift. she needs to sort out what is going on in her life. if she is getting married for love or to support her man because there is more than one way to support a man. And second if she gets married for the wrong reason or the right reason does she want this downfall to be the foundation for the relationship. if she is already having doubts she needs to reevaluate the situation and where she wants to be in life.
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Post by Tori on Nov 5, 2003 15:38:34 GMT -5
Auset straight up you are a well of wisdom and don't let NOBODY tell you anything different! :-*Your advice is really appreciated b/c something you just said put this whole mess into perspective!
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Post by Auset on Nov 5, 2003 15:41:47 GMT -5
Thank you girl, that's what I'm here for becuase I have sen these cases so much and I know the out come of it all. Hopefully for those joining the bookclub when we read Thugs we will go over this situation because it's a situation like this in the book and it's deep. I wish the young lady the best.
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