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Post by jamadianUK on Apr 19, 2004 6:14:21 GMT -5
I took a sex break for 5yrs, I did a lot of dating in that time, NO feeling up was every present (heavy petting) oral sex or anything you would expect a girl of 9yrs and below to take part in was done in that time period (I'm 25 for those who are in shock). I had the 'I need to be FCUKED NOW' moments in the early stages, but after a year it was cool. I found ways to curb the 'cravings' with exercise, church, studying, life in general.
Right now I'm contempleting another break due to me becoming more focused on new goals for myself and other matters of the heart. I feel the word celibate is a joke to use,to me that word is associated with being SINgle,or holding out due to religious complications ( my view ok ).I feel I get another view of how I view sex on a whole, also how others view those who decide not to partake in sex.
But what I want to know is your experince and your view,be it for or against,god or VERY VERY VERY badddddd.
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Suede
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Love for all means Love for self --- Suede
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Post by Suede on Apr 19, 2004 11:17:23 GMT -5
I really wanna support you in this, but I can't cuz I have yet to try this. One Love
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Post by Style4ya on Apr 19, 2004 11:20:55 GMT -5
If you feel that this is something you really want or need to do, I commend you. I have been without for long periods of time also, but never that long. Do your thing!!!
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Post by joyluv on Apr 19, 2004 12:14:03 GMT -5
Jamadian...girl...I went 7 yrs without, that's on the real! But it was an easy journey for me because I didn't have any inclination tobe intimate. I had another hiatus for about 2 yrs. Sex is not the forefront thing for me and still even now since I'm in a relationship. Believe me ...IT'S GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRREAT but breaks are necessary.
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Post by Tori on Apr 20, 2004 18:53:19 GMT -5
First off I would like to say that I like the way you think...I've been reading your posts and even if I don't agree I can feel you on most subjects. As far as this goes, I have my spells when I don't want to be intimate for whatever reason. I feel like I get more accomplished because I am able to become more focused on myself...my wants, and my goals. It's a form of meditation for me...clears my head...when your head is on another level of clarity it is amazing how everything else seems to increase. All of my senses become more keen...basically I think this is a great decision. Especially if you need clarity on matters of the heart!
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Post by jamadianUK on Apr 22, 2004 4:24:57 GMT -5
Thanks to EVERYONE that's given or read this post,I'm not contemplating anymore I'm on a break FULL STOP. I never try to give a time period, I just go with the flow. In a talk with my female friend she said "spring aint the time to take a break", I disagree. Yes the bodies are on full display and weather is cooking, but it's not a seaonal situaction it's a life change thing, so anytime is good time as long as it's within my time.
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Post by Simply_Uneque on Apr 22, 2004 9:47:13 GMT -5
My hat goes off to anyone that can make this life altering choice.
My girlfriend of 7 years has gone on a five year hiatus... and is still going strong. And I remember her saying that the first year was the hardest even though it still gets hard from time to time.
I too have pulled away from sex... but for short periods of time... to focus on other things in the realtionship and to reaccess the situation surrounding the relationship. I must agree it has helped with whatever I was struggling with at that moment.
Great topic!!!
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