Post by Simply_Uneque on Apr 23, 2004 9:58:40 GMT -5
Imagine: Your man strolls through your front door and announces, "Baby, forget Must-See TV. Tonight, I want to worship your body, massage you head to heel, make love to you on a higher spiritual plane, then provoke an out-of-this-world orgasm so you reach a whole new pleasure plateau."
Probably, you'd think either you were dreaming or your guy had temporarily lost touch with reality. Well, in the case of Tantric sex, you'd essentially be right on both counts. Tantra is the exotic art of prolonging your passion play to reach new levels of lusty satisfaction. "The idea is to build arousal very slowly so you both stay just below the boiling point for as long as possible," explains Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex (Dorling Kindersley, 1997). "That way you really focus on the full sexual journey -- getting turned on, stimulating each of your five senses for maximum passion, harmonizing your sexual rhythms." The result is both an out-of-body bond with your partner plus very physical ecstatic orgasms.
Inspired by the sexual success of these ancient love teachings (who wouldn't be?), Cosmo came up with its own turbo-charged version of Tantra. Here, our updated, totally modern four-step passion program (plus twists on classic Tantric moves) to tempt, tease, then thoroughly please. Grab your guy and get ready for a trip toward erotic enlightenment.
Step 1: Launch Your Night of Lust... Tantra is all about brewing passion. So begin the slow burn toward nooky nirvana by creating an ambience conducive to this brand of spiritual sex. Now, the real deal calls for actually designing a sort of carnal shrine, but if you don't happen to have a spare romper room, or about 12 hours of free time on your hands, we say just pick a spot and clear it of clutter -- turn off the phone and get rid of papers, files, and books that will distract you. "Create a calm atmosphere where you won't feel rushed or reminded of everyday responsibilities," says Lacroix. Make sure the room is toasty warm (you'll be naked for a while) and either dim the lights or scatter votive candles along the windowsills, shelves, and tables. Then, scent your love den. According to Tantric philosophy, smells deliver a powerful punch to your sexuality. Burn libido-lifting incense (musk, sandalwood, and jasmine are particularly ardent aromas) or light a scented candle.
Step 2: Energize Your Other Erogenous Zones... You've plugged in to each other, now it's time to build on that bond with some hands-on seduction. But don't dive for your partner's private parts. Instead, stroke, caress, lick, and arouse every inch of each other's bodies by hitting nongenital places that don't usually get sexual attention. "This is especially important for men, who often get shortchanged when it comes to waking up the less obvious erogenous zones," says Lacroix. "They tend to focus just on their genital area, so they miss out on how incredible indirect stimulation can feel."
Step 3: Get to an Even Higher Pleasure Plane... By now you're both brimming with erotic anticipation. Here's where the Tantra mantra of Build Up, Cool Down comes into play. "That means working up arousal so you're close to the point of no return, then letting it subside," says Lacroix. "You'll learn to get incredible pleasure by almost peaking, and the more times you repeat this buildup, the longer you'll both last and the more sexual tension will mount," climbing toward a mind-blowing climax. The key to riding this sexual roller coaster (and preventing reaching kingdom come too quickly) is taking a break whenever you feel yourself reach your orgasmic threshold. Just immediately stop what you're doing and focus on your breathing as you cool your sex jets.
Step 4: Reach the Big O-mmmmm. The passion between you is now at fever pitch. And those swells of arousal have primed you both for an otherworldly orgasm. "Remember to gaze into each other's eyes to keep you both in the moment and prevent you from going over the edge too fast," reminds Lacroix. Then when you're both ready, reach new heights of pleasure with one of Cosmo's seismic-climax positions.
The Tantra-X... Your guy sits cross-legged while you kneel over his lap, facing him. Place your calves under his knees so you don't crush his legs. As he enters you, use your thigh muscles to lower yourself up and down as slowly as possible. Keep your bodies close, and stay aware of each other's breathing. At the same time, your hands are free to caress each other and your faces are level for eye contact -- and deep kissing.
The Sexual Seesaw... Lie on your back with your pelvis tilted just slightly on a small pillow. Your sexual soul mate lifts your feet up so that your legs are folded/curled in, your knees almost resting on your breasts, and your soles resting on his chest. Holding your feet as he moves inside of you, he gets to control thrusting while you get G-spot stimulation. "My husband and I tried this position after two hours of teasing buildup," says Cathy, 30. "The deep penetration was incredible. I had an orgasm that was unlike anything I'd experienced before. The wildest part was it seemed to last forever -- every time I thought the climax peaked, it got more intense." Talk about enlightenment!
Probably, you'd think either you were dreaming or your guy had temporarily lost touch with reality. Well, in the case of Tantric sex, you'd essentially be right on both counts. Tantra is the exotic art of prolonging your passion play to reach new levels of lusty satisfaction. "The idea is to build arousal very slowly so you both stay just below the boiling point for as long as possible," explains Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex (Dorling Kindersley, 1997). "That way you really focus on the full sexual journey -- getting turned on, stimulating each of your five senses for maximum passion, harmonizing your sexual rhythms." The result is both an out-of-body bond with your partner plus very physical ecstatic orgasms.
Inspired by the sexual success of these ancient love teachings (who wouldn't be?), Cosmo came up with its own turbo-charged version of Tantra. Here, our updated, totally modern four-step passion program (plus twists on classic Tantric moves) to tempt, tease, then thoroughly please. Grab your guy and get ready for a trip toward erotic enlightenment.
Step 1: Launch Your Night of Lust... Tantra is all about brewing passion. So begin the slow burn toward nooky nirvana by creating an ambience conducive to this brand of spiritual sex. Now, the real deal calls for actually designing a sort of carnal shrine, but if you don't happen to have a spare romper room, or about 12 hours of free time on your hands, we say just pick a spot and clear it of clutter -- turn off the phone and get rid of papers, files, and books that will distract you. "Create a calm atmosphere where you won't feel rushed or reminded of everyday responsibilities," says Lacroix. Make sure the room is toasty warm (you'll be naked for a while) and either dim the lights or scatter votive candles along the windowsills, shelves, and tables. Then, scent your love den. According to Tantric philosophy, smells deliver a powerful punch to your sexuality. Burn libido-lifting incense (musk, sandalwood, and jasmine are particularly ardent aromas) or light a scented candle.
Step 2: Energize Your Other Erogenous Zones... You've plugged in to each other, now it's time to build on that bond with some hands-on seduction. But don't dive for your partner's private parts. Instead, stroke, caress, lick, and arouse every inch of each other's bodies by hitting nongenital places that don't usually get sexual attention. "This is especially important for men, who often get shortchanged when it comes to waking up the less obvious erogenous zones," says Lacroix. "They tend to focus just on their genital area, so they miss out on how incredible indirect stimulation can feel."
Step 3: Get to an Even Higher Pleasure Plane... By now you're both brimming with erotic anticipation. Here's where the Tantra mantra of Build Up, Cool Down comes into play. "That means working up arousal so you're close to the point of no return, then letting it subside," says Lacroix. "You'll learn to get incredible pleasure by almost peaking, and the more times you repeat this buildup, the longer you'll both last and the more sexual tension will mount," climbing toward a mind-blowing climax. The key to riding this sexual roller coaster (and preventing reaching kingdom come too quickly) is taking a break whenever you feel yourself reach your orgasmic threshold. Just immediately stop what you're doing and focus on your breathing as you cool your sex jets.
Step 4: Reach the Big O-mmmmm. The passion between you is now at fever pitch. And those swells of arousal have primed you both for an otherworldly orgasm. "Remember to gaze into each other's eyes to keep you both in the moment and prevent you from going over the edge too fast," reminds Lacroix. Then when you're both ready, reach new heights of pleasure with one of Cosmo's seismic-climax positions.
The Tantra-X... Your guy sits cross-legged while you kneel over his lap, facing him. Place your calves under his knees so you don't crush his legs. As he enters you, use your thigh muscles to lower yourself up and down as slowly as possible. Keep your bodies close, and stay aware of each other's breathing. At the same time, your hands are free to caress each other and your faces are level for eye contact -- and deep kissing.
The Sexual Seesaw... Lie on your back with your pelvis tilted just slightly on a small pillow. Your sexual soul mate lifts your feet up so that your legs are folded/curled in, your knees almost resting on your breasts, and your soles resting on his chest. Holding your feet as he moves inside of you, he gets to control thrusting while you get G-spot stimulation. "My husband and I tried this position after two hours of teasing buildup," says Cathy, 30. "The deep penetration was incredible. I had an orgasm that was unlike anything I'd experienced before. The wildest part was it seemed to last forever -- every time I thought the climax peaked, it got more intense." Talk about enlightenment!
That's what I'm talkin' about! WHEW!! 
