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Post by Auset on Oct 12, 2004 8:07:23 GMT -5
...then comes marriage.. then the baby in the baby carriage right?
Well that's how it used to be now it seems like it's love baby then maybe marriage.
If someone approached you and said they would definitely marry you if you had their child what would you say?
Do you feel that a marraige can work that way?
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Post by Msmoore on Oct 12, 2004 15:55:15 GMT -5
This is so ironic because I do not believe this will work not in my world anyway, there are a lot of men here at my job that ask on a constant basis why aren't you married? I would marry you in a second, especially if you had my child! ok that's stupid, I think you should get to know one another before bringing a child into the world not to say that is guaranteed to hold you together. Marry for love not just for the sake of having a child.
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Post by The_Realist on Oct 12, 2004 18:39:54 GMT -5
"Marry for love not just for the sake of having a child."
-MsMoore
ABSOLUTELY.
Marry because that person benefits you to a point that you can't benefit yourself, and vise versa... not just because there's a child in the picture. Marry because that's the person that you actually want to be with for the rest of your life... it's still your child and that's still your child's mother regardless if you are married to her or not.
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Post by naturalone on Oct 13, 2004 10:59:50 GMT -5
whatever happened to planning children?
i see it all the time women meet men, fall in love, have a child than expect to get married.
why?
i'm not denouncing children before marriage but damn women really need to prioritize their commitments.
and no marriage because you have a child is the wrong reason to marry.
i say women because ultimately (most) women end up with the child if the relationship fails.
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Post by Justin on Oct 21, 2004 17:13:38 GMT -5
I agree with everyone. I don't understand us today. I mean, when you look at it "shacking" is quite common too. I just can't see how two people can be livin' together for like 3 years or more and just be "together" not married, that's crazy. And why do we constantly continue to have children first? That's the biggest responsibility of all! I don't understand it, but I can say this...I won't be me!  |
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Post by deepthought74 on Oct 24, 2004 10:27:02 GMT -5
Why would u want to base your marriage on a kid first...I have seen this before and it does not work!! Kids should come after u get to know each other wow what a concept and then u can decide from there if that is the person u want to have your child....being a parent and getting married are big responsiblities and should not be done without being thought out....thats one of the reasons the divorce is so high now....just my spin on things!
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Post by jamadianUK on Nov 5, 2004 12:00:26 GMT -5
People always ask "where's the kids", my reply "when the finger is full and heavy". I belive in marriage full stop, I'm not to sure about children,mine or someone else's but marraige ,oh yeah sign me up.
I grew up in the ghetto, having a child before you were 18yrs was a part of growing up.....not in my house.Mum don't bussiness if you legal and got a mortage, no kids before aisle duty period. Me and bros are all over the legal age and no kids yet, cause no weddings bells yet simple.
If a man wants me to have a child before showing the ultimate commitment, he has to be stone drunk or secretly on drugs.
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Post by Divine Justice on Nov 6, 2004 20:24:36 GMT -5
No no children before the marriage. I agree with everyone too many broken homes. Not to say that single parent homes are bad I should know I come from one but why not have two if you can?
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Post by The_Realist on Nov 6, 2004 21:41:14 GMT -5
This is a growing problem. what's the solution?
is it a mis-education?
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