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Ah Geez
Oct 16, 2004 10:24:41 GMT -5
Post by The_Realist on Oct 16, 2004 10:24:41 GMT -5
this simply goes back to the topic "would you uproot your life.." but check it.. i just received a job offer, however, i'd be moving back up to NYC.. i'b be a full time nanny... stay in a suite in the UPPER EAST SIDE ($$$) for free... i'd get a new car (not that i am not pleased with the one that i have) and get paid $500 a week (which, is fine because my living expenses are already paid for)... and weekends to do as i please... but, i have my man down here.. we haven't been together but 5 months.. but, we have never had an arguement.. and we click. it's real. (we don't use the L word yet though... but we do have strong feelings)... AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. First step is to just sit down and talk about it.  |
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Ah Geez
Oct 16, 2004 10:52:38 GMT -5
Post by Msmoore on Oct 16, 2004 10:52:38 GMT -5
Yeah I think you should talk with him, Richmond and NYC are not that far away but see what he thinks maybe it can work. The job situation seems DECENT! you will basically have spending money to do what you need to and the area the "upper East Side" you can't get any better than that! I hope it all works out for you  |
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Ah Geez
Oct 19, 2004 10:39:35 GMT -5
Post by Auset on Oct 19, 2004 10:39:35 GMT -5
I'm with Ms. Moore, it sounds like a great oppurtunity for you. and it's not like you can't visit. The way I drive it's a six hour trip for him or you and there are always trains leaving out of staples mill to penn station and that train ride is only 7hours and 12 min. So it's not like you all can't commute but I will tell you this the question ya'll need to ask is can you handle a long distance relationship? When you talk, talk about trust, communication, respect and arrangement for him to come up or you to come down. Because you need to see each other at least ere other week. But eventually one of you will end up moving up or down if you all work out.
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Ah Geez
Oct 21, 2004 11:28:44 GMT -5
Post by Justin on Oct 21, 2004 11:28:44 GMT -5
I agree with Msmoore and Auset, you should talk it out with him, but you also have to do what's best for you. Also do what you think you won't live with a regret with afterwards.  |
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Ah Geez
Nov 5, 2004 12:49:46 GMT -5
Post by jamadianUK on Nov 5, 2004 12:49:46 GMT -5
You got a car, so commute. The distance makes it a little special, when seeing him.......just remembered it's winter and the East side of the US snows like Scotland I hear......Talk to him.
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Ah Geez
Nov 6, 2004 12:43:11 GMT -5
Post by The_Realist on Nov 6, 2004 12:43:11 GMT -5
well, if i don't take it, he wants to move in together. ha. ... which, he has lived with a significant other, and he said he wouldn't ever desire to do it again, but.. he said that he thinks we could do it.
Either way, best believe he has been A LOT closer to me since he found out i might leave.
i got til Dec to decide, but, we'll figure something out. things will fall in place.
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Ah Geez
Nov 7, 2004 13:08:04 GMT -5
Post by deepthought74 on Nov 7, 2004 13:08:04 GMT -5
well, if i don't take it, he wants to move in together. ha. ... which, he has lived with a significant other, and he said he wouldn't ever desire to do it again, but.. he said that he thinks we could do it. Either way, best believe he has been A LOT closer to me since he found out i might leave. i got til Dec to decide, but, we'll figure something out. things will fall in place. This right here..shows he wants u sweetheart....but sit down and talk with him...and do whats best for you..u seem real mature...so I know u will handle this...good luck! |
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Ah Geez
Nov 7, 2004 13:52:18 GMT -5
Post by The_Realist on Nov 7, 2004 13:52:18 GMT -5
yeah. thank you.
everything's going to be alright regardless.
my eyes are wide open in case he tries to trap me, haa.
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Ah Geez
Nov 7, 2004 13:54:48 GMT -5
Post by Justin on Nov 7, 2004 13:54:48 GMT -5
lol
So you haven't made a decision yet?
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Ah Geez
Nov 7, 2004 13:56:59 GMT -5
Post by The_Realist on Nov 7, 2004 13:56:59 GMT -5
naah. not til December.
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Ah Geez
Nov 15, 2004 16:45:27 GMT -5
Post by Msmoore on Nov 15, 2004 16:45:27 GMT -5
How is the decision coming along? I hope whatever you decide it works out for the best |
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Ah Geez
Nov 16, 2004 2:14:24 GMT -5
Post by The_Realist on Nov 16, 2004 2:14:24 GMT -5
awww. thanks... it's coming.. it's a lot to decide and consider.
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Ah Geez
Dec 6, 2004 19:43:07 GMT -5
Post by Msmoore on Dec 6, 2004 19:43:07 GMT -5
ok time is up what is the decision? are you still pondering?
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Ah Geez
Dec 6, 2004 23:23:46 GMT -5
Post by The_Realist on Dec 6, 2004 23:23:46 GMT -5
ok ok ok. on Sunday, i had made the decision. declined.
oh damn, i never said what the job was: nanny.
and i declined it because of the simple fact that if i accepted it, i wouldn't be able to establish a personal life of my own for several years. Hint: that is why most nannies are older and their children have already grown up.
But, everything's going good and i appreciate everyone's concern and being there during this situation and potential 180 turn around in my life.
Thanks.
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Ah Geez
Dec 6, 2004 23:27:15 GMT -5
Post by Justin on Dec 6, 2004 23:27:15 GMT -5
As long as you're happy is all that matters. |
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