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Post by Auset on Jan 13, 2005 14:37:28 GMT -5
I was thinking about htis because when i got out of my last releationship where i was involved for almost five years with no ring I said nayagain! So now I give myself a time frame of a year. If I'm with you for more than a year and you don't know I have to move on to the next because we don't have that kind of time in live to be chilling for five years and not getting married what do you think?
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Post by naturalone on Jan 17, 2005 15:58:47 GMT -5
but really there is no time frame...
when you know, you'll know it could take 1 year nore or less.....
aussie watch the time frame thing...you'll know by actions....and so will he....
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Post by Divine Justice on Jan 18, 2005 14:00:57 GMT -5
I'll say a year because for people with time frames it seem good. But you never know some people know from day one and some can take a lifetime. You'll know when you do.
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Post by Auset on Jan 27, 2005 15:59:27 GMT -5
This is more for myself nat. Okay my last relationship I put the whole timeframe thing out the window and ended up spending damn near five years of my life for him to turn around and say he wasn't going to marry me. So the next time around I told myself i refuse to make the same mistake. I'm not trying to lock down a specific time but I wont be wasting time that is not guarnteed on someone who doesn't know what they want to do? What do you think?
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Post by jamadianUK on Jan 28, 2005 10:51:10 GMT -5
I say no longer than 2yrs without a ring,no less than 6 months..........but I'm not watching the clock right now so who knows.
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Post by naturalone on Feb 10, 2005 14:51:52 GMT -5
[glow=orange,2,300]i must say it also depends on age Auset.
think about it...looking at your situation now...would you want to be his wife?
5 years is too.....long for someone in their thirties...in your twenties that relationship was probably a good lesson for you[/glow]
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Post by Mesha on Feb 15, 2005 4:31:55 GMT -5
Auset,
I can feel you on the time frame thing. Over the last 16 years I have been in 2 long term relationships. the first I knew that I was not going to marry him! the second I set a time frame, the funny thing is when the time that I set came and we were not married I didnt end the relationship...so more time went on and then he wanted to get married but guess what ..I didnt...lol and we all know what happend in the end...I LEFT HIS ASS RIGHT IN RICHMOND...hehehe..lol. But what I am trying to say is dont worry about the time, because I believe that when the ONE comes along we will know wether its been 1 day, 1 year...the vibes will be there...
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Post by Divine Justice on Nov 13, 2005 14:41:17 GMT -5
I'm 2 and half years in and this man wants me to wait 7 more years to get married. WHAT THE HELL? He says he's too young. But what I don't gt is we're living the married life with out the piece of paper. Now is that a time frame or what?
He better hope I'm still here in 8 years.
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Post by Auset on Nov 14, 2005 12:26:23 GMT -5
That's my whole thing. If you are going to live the married life, live together, etc why not, what's the big dea? Aren't you already commited so what would a ring and legal agreement change? Not a thing in my opinion if it's really love, otherwise we are just wasting each others time.
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Post by Divine Justice on Nov 15, 2005 8:14:42 GMT -5
That's what I'm saying. I told him I feel we're each others safety net. He looks at me like I've lost my mind. I told himone day your going to wake p and ralize even though you love me it's not what you want and then what's going to happen?
He thinks I'm crazy, but time will tell.
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