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Post by Renetrice on Jan 14, 2005 19:02:20 GMT -5
[glow=blue,3,300]You can't please the bastards, no matter what!.!.!.![/glow]
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Post by naturalone on Jan 17, 2005 15:55:50 GMT -5
than try pleasing yourself.....don't hate...just breathe...
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Post by Divine Justice on Jan 18, 2005 14:02:43 GMT -5
Don't please them. Their are good one's but for the most part do what you need for self....
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Post by Craig on Jan 19, 2005 2:44:13 GMT -5
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Post by Auset on Jan 19, 2005 15:35:18 GMT -5
Rentrice I can imagine how you are feeling and I would have to agree with the advice of nat and bub. People are completely imperfect and with understanding that make sure you work on yourself and that is all that matters.
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Post by The_Realist on Jan 19, 2005 17:33:17 GMT -5
very good advice Naturalone.
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Post by Renetrice on Jan 19, 2005 22:37:38 GMT -5
[glow=blue,3,300]My husband told me, basically, I'm not satisfactory to him, because my hair is no longer relaxed. "You look like a guy, I treat you like a guy." How bodacious!
I spent tons of money on new clothes, trying to impress this guy, and he doesn't say a peep when I put them on. Well, he can put his own foot up his own ass!!! Damn it to heck.[/glow]
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Post by The_Realist on Jan 20, 2005 2:04:36 GMT -5
my geez. what an asshole. sounds like he's just making excuses not to be there for you like he should.
my opinion.
you don't need a man like that.
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Post by Craig on Jan 20, 2005 2:14:54 GMT -5
That's just wrong.
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Post by Divine Justice on Jan 24, 2005 1:55:58 GMT -5
I f he can't appreciate what he has maybe he doesn't need it....
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Post by Auset on Jan 27, 2005 15:56:55 GMT -5
The main issue here is respect. He does not respect you and if he can't respect you than you all should reevaluate the relationship. Write down your feelings, his recent actions and sit him down to find out where he stands and go from there. You are a beautiful women and there is no reason for you to feel infieor because your hair is no long relaxed. You take him to the side and let it all out. If he doesn't want to talk write him a letter. But he must understand that you will not stand for disrespect. and you will be treated right! Demand it.  He done made me mad. Take less time trying to please him and spend that time on enjoying yourself. Dont feed into his ignorant comments and stand your ground! |
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Post by naturalone on Feb 4, 2005 10:01:12 GMT -5
 ???i don't know sis, sounds like a smoke screen for something else & he's trying to beat at your spirit.
let me ask you this,
have you known him to dislike women with short hair?
what made you make the decision to go natural?
i think you and him need to have a heart to heart and find out what would make him say something so mean?
hopefully he's man enough to be real with you.
but you may need to make a decision on how he's making you feel...
we all do things to please people but in all honesty you HAVE TO please yourself 1st.
the most important thing...
your son...examples is what he learns from and if your husband is saying things and doing things to hurt you...your son is seeing, feeling & absorbing this [glow=red,2,300]negative shit.[/glow]
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Post by Auset on Feb 4, 2005 15:24:17 GMT -5
I would have to second that motion. You definitely don't want your son to grow up on now women hating binge that is so evident in our disrespectful realm as of now. It's a learned behavior so nip that in the bud.
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Post by Tori on Feb 4, 2005 15:37:41 GMT -5
Someone is certainly smelling himself!!! Girl, it's just hair...here today gone tommorow! We don't fall in love and marry people because of their hair (hopefully)! If that is the only complaint he can come up with then it sounds like you are doing something right, while he needs to get it together! Don't try to please him in any way...make him please himself |
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Post by Renetrice on Feb 4, 2005 20:55:53 GMT -5
[glow=blue,3,300]I thank yall for the wisdom. He is a very shallow person; it took too long for me to discover that. I am so weary of this man. I want a divorce and I don't at the sametime. Oh my.  [/glow] |
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He done made me mad. Take less time trying to please him and spend that time on enjoying yourself. Dont feed into his ignorant comments and stand your ground!
???i don't know sis, sounds like a smoke screen for something else & he's trying to beat at your spirit.