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Post by Justin on May 17, 2005 17:05:56 GMT -5
I just spoke with one of my friends the other day and he was tellin' me that he got his girlfriend pregnant, it wasn't planned but that he's excited and scared at the same time. He isn't sure if he wants to be with her for life or what he wants to do with his own.
This is one of my many male and female friends who have done this.
My question is: Are our generation and the one coming up just thinking of the moment and getting too excited about "raw" sex and not caring about the result of not using protection until after we've "got ours"? Has anyone been in that situation? Or have any thoughts on this been-growing epidemic? I can see now how STDs get transfered so much.
Let's talk about this.
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Post by The_Realist on May 20, 2005 17:03:17 GMT -5
maaaan.
i am damn near convinced that the idea of marriage first, then kids to follow is damn near extinct.
shew, my younger sister just had twins.. she turned 18 in Sept.: birthed them in March.
this is a serious problem in today's society.
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Post by Craig on May 21, 2005 2:52:35 GMT -5
Yep, and it ain't just us (blacks).
Almost as if marriage is the thing that happens later -- "we'll get married later..."
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Post by Lady on May 21, 2005 8:29:23 GMT -5
I myself have to agree. I have a son and it was not planned but the condom broke and the damage was done, but it is on the rise with single mothers under the age of 18. My sons aunt was 14 when she had her son. Now she has a 1 year old at the age of 15. She's still a baby. And I can't say I'm too much better because my son is three and I'm 21. The things I see are not just one sided either. There is a girl (white) that lives near me now and she's 20 with two. I also know a 22 year old who has a 6 year old a four year old and a 1 1/2 year old baby. But it's not just the girls fault. If these men would take some responsibility for some of their actions then there would be some type of change.
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Post by jamadianUK on May 24, 2005 10:12:17 GMT -5
I went to an all girls high school,30 in my class all different races. Out of my last class, 7 have no children before they were 20yrs!!!! Right now in the papers the UK nation is in an uproar about 3 sisters all under the age of consent giving birth months apart. Is the parents/school/goverment or society to bame?
Sex,not making love or being in an intimate realtionship, is seen as the norm. So much that having children is viewed as less important as buying white trainers. I'm not saying I'm a saint,far from it. But the responsability of raising and maintaining a child which is a gift from GOD is a serious matter to me, and I need to have a serious and responsbile mate for life to do the job.
My best friend just gave birth to a baby girl,she's in her 30's and that's the goal I'm heading towards.
this is my view don't take it too personal people.
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Post by Justin on May 24, 2005 23:27:21 GMT -5
If these men would take some responsibility for some of their actions then there would be some type of change. That's true, I think it's on both sides though and it's more of an individual thing don't you think? We're each responsible for our own actions. Your situation is different, that's understandable but it's those who just take the gamble that I'm speakin' of. Why is it a fad to NOT use protection? What's so cool about it? My friend told me it feels better without a condom and that he figured she wouldn't get pregnant cause she was on the pill. To me, that's just a ridiculous remark and action on his part. I mean a child is a very serious thing to bring into the world. |
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Post by Justin on May 24, 2005 23:48:16 GMT -5
I think about this often since so many of my friends have children, my older bro had his daughter at 18, but I took care of her from my sophomore year in high school till I graduated. I feel as though I've raised a child already and even though I didn't do everything, I just don't think these kids know exactly how much responsibility it is.
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Post by Lady on May 27, 2005 11:43:03 GMT -5
They dont' understand. I struggle everyday to take care of my son and his father helps even though we aren't still together but I came out lucky. Do they know how much children cost? Do they realize how much time it takes just to feed, bathe, and clothe kids. I only have one and I'm learning everyday that it is not easy. The pill is not fullproof and condoms aren't either I've learned but staying a virgin is the easiest thing on earth.
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Post by Justin on May 28, 2005 0:25:57 GMT -5
staying a virgin is the easiest thing on earth. That's true, but don't hold your breath on that becoming a fad. Sex is glamorized so much everywhere in everything that it would be hard to avoid. They don't understand and I don't know what more we (as a people) can do to prevent it from happening so frequently with our youth. |
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Post by jamadianUK on May 31, 2005 8:27:43 GMT -5
Volunteer week in the UK, I've joined one of the youth clubs in my work area. I've already called one of the Domestic Violence centres to work with the teens affected on a long term contract in June. I think it's all about educating the children at an early stage and support them when going through puberty.
The 'village' support of Church/ school/ family
/friends/coaches/etc, helped me make serious and good choices that affect my life today. Many of the sources of infomation I used back then are no longer availabe. I blame the goverment and my community for allowing this problem of 'children raising children' to happen.
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Post by Lady on May 31, 2005 11:48:57 GMT -5
You also have to think about it on a smaller scale. Parents need to keep a tighter leash on their children so that they go on the right path. Raise them and not let them raise you. That's what most of these kids are doing. These trifflin' parents need to be raised and their children have to grow up earlier then they need to. Then when they get into society they don't know how to act. It sickening.
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Post by Divine Justice on May 31, 2005 12:24:24 GMT -5
TRUE LADY BUT HOW TIGHT OF A LEASH WHEN U R A BABY RAISING A BABY AND IT'S GENERATIONAL?? I SEE SO MANY YOUNG GIRLS AND I WANT TO CRY I HAVE A 15YR OLD COUSIN BOUT 2 HAVE A BABY SOON HER MOTHER USED O ALWAYS RANT AND RAVE ABOUT HOW SHE WASN'T RAISING NO GRANDCHILDREN AND SHE'S THE HAPPIEST 1 IN THE FAMILY NOW. MIND YOU THIS IS HER YOUNGEST DAUGHTER...I'M SPITTING ON 24 AND NEVER BEEN PREGNANT A DAY IN MY LIFE AND TRUST I WAS PRETTY PROMISCUOUS BUT SOMETIMES LIFE'S LESSONS ARE THE BEST LESSONS. I FEEL SORRY FOR THESE YOUNG KIDS MALE AND FEMALE. MARRIAGE IS NON-EXISTENT BECAUSE NO ONE HAS SHOWN OUR GENERATION THAT IT'S OK TO BE MARRIED THEN START YOUR FAMILY. I WONDER WHAT WILL BECOME OF OUR FUTURE IF SOMETHING DOESN'T HAPPEN SOON.
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Post by Lady on Jun 1, 2005 9:35:56 GMT -5
It's going to be a world full of bastard children and 12 year old mothers. It's getting younger and younger in the ages of these children. I had my son early myself, 17 I was, and I am just as bad. But at the school I work at these 1st graders know what sex is. First graders! I was shocked to hear my ears but I then have to realize if that's all these kids are growing up with then what else do they know?
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Post by Lady on Jun 1, 2005 9:36:16 GMT -5
It's going to be a world full of bastard children and 12 year old mothers. It's getting younger and younger in the ages of these children. I had my son early myself, 17 I was, and I am just as bad. But at the school I work at these 1st graders know what sex is. First graders! I was shocked to hear my ears but I then have to realize if that's all these kids are growing up with then what else do they know?
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Post by Justin on Jun 3, 2005 0:44:58 GMT -5
Hell, they know everything they shouldn't and nothing about what they should. These kids think sex = adulthood/manhood/womanhood. I don't know how to turn this thing around. Sex is such a big deal nowadays, it's everywhere you look.
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