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Post by Fela on Oct 18, 2005 14:09:19 GMT -5
I was talking w/ a friend the other day and he was saying how he has this "feeling" his g/f is cheating on him. I asked whether there was good cause ie had she stepped out on him before or are they having problems and he answered No. So basically he is driving himself and probably his girl crazy because of "instinct " an inner voice {not the crazy kind } But I do the same thing to a degree , I have learned to follow my gut feelings when dealing w/ people or situations. So I ask you ; Do you follow your heart / gut feeling , intuition ? Or do you only work from facts ?
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Post by Justin on Oct 18, 2005 14:35:47 GMT -5
Depends on the situation. If someone stole something, I go by facts alone, but relationship wise I go with the gut-feeling, better to be safe than a fool.
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Post by Fela on Oct 18, 2005 14:51:58 GMT -5
Yeah , sadly I was pretty jaded. Between bad relationships and my work .. well seeing the good side of people can be tough. But I try to find balance, I keep my eyes open but give the person or situation the benifit of the doubt. That or room to fuq up on there own !
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Post by Auset on Oct 19, 2005 11:57:40 GMT -5
I pay attention to my gut by keeping my eyes open. I don't move unless I have proof that something isn't right but I keep my eyes all the way open.
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Post by Auset on Oct 19, 2005 11:58:19 GMT -5
By the way what's making him have this gut feeling?
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Post by Fela on Oct 20, 2005 10:51:19 GMT -5
He's really not sure , there is nothing tangible just the big bad gut feeling. This for me is not enough to make accusation or walk away. I have cautioned him and suggested he keep his eye's open and his mouth closed for the time being but not call the negative energy. I feel like a dialog is important and perhaps they should talk she probably senses his disquiet and could be worried about the same thing ,this would lead them both to walk. But chatting things out could bring them closer.
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Post by Auset on Oct 20, 2005 12:28:32 GMT -5
I agree. If she is doing something and he starts mouthing off without proof she could stop and he wont ever know the truth. Or she could not be doing anything at all and she could end up leaving him. I say the same, trust gut but don't say anything until you have something concrete to go off of.
While we are on this I saw on Tyra the other day where people installed survailence to checkon their mate because of their gut feeling, what do you think about that? Have you ever done anything like that if so how did it turn out?
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Post by Fela on Oct 20, 2005 13:16:49 GMT -5
Being that I work in the P.I. bizz , people always think I'm gonna "check " them out ...I couldn't be bothered with all that . I give people a chance to prove themselves . I try to surround myself w/ people whose character I respect and who carry themselves with a grace and dignity that I feel trustworthy. I fail to see the bad apple on occasion, but I learn and move along. I have this rule for myself and my loved ones~ Don't ask me for the truth if you can't hear it. I wont lie just to make a situation easier ,cause in the end it backfires and people feel betrayed . I also ,just don't have the jealous gene. never have been ,never will be. So maybe I'm lucky ,that way ?
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Post by Auset on Oct 25, 2005 8:58:44 GMT -5
Now you know you got to tell me more about your work, I'm so interested. I love parco pi. One of our other fam Ariez wants to be a pi maybe you can give her some tips as to what she can do.
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Post by Fela on Oct 25, 2005 9:14:16 GMT -5
As for our Fam I will guide, advise and otherwise assist anyone I can in investigating or any other field .My e-mail is in my profile , pass it on if you think it would be helpful. As for my work specifically...well I work for an organisation whose focus is on re-viewing death penalty cases and finding just cause for re-trial or full release for inmates wrongfully accused . It's hard on the soul and spirit sometimes as is all investigative work. I don't do the sneak and peeks or spousal spy-ing ,no insurance claims... I have a hard enough time sleeping as it is . My choice is certainly not glamorous or fun ,but I am proud of it.
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Post by Auset on Oct 25, 2005 9:27:10 GMT -5
I can imagine how trying it must be so you can always release here! I'll email ariez to let her know to reach out to you because she expressed an interest some time ago.
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Post by Fela on Oct 25, 2005 10:54:59 GMT -5
I try to find ways to get my stress out writing helps ,so does meditation and prayer. I feel like I'm doing the right thing ,but how long I can continue to fight the system and not be empty is another thing all together. I love popping in here and hiding out from it sometimes. It re-charges my batteries , so thank you !
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Post by Auset on Oct 25, 2005 11:20:16 GMT -5
You are welcome and feel free to take that dip in the pool over at the aap resort, that is one of the best places to take your mind away from reality and enjoy imagination.
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