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Post by Auset on Nov 6, 2003 15:57:15 GMT -5
It happens everyday. when a child is old enough to not be allergic to makeup their faces are made to look like adults, put in grown clothes and taught to dance provoctavely for judges. They are in categories and have coaches to teach them how to win. They spend $5000 in outfits, fake teeth, hair and makeup only to be standing on a stage with tears in their eyes because their name didn't get called. What do you feel about it?
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Post by The_Realist on Nov 10, 2003 3:55:32 GMT -5
i feel i teaches a child that beauty is simply an exterior thing, and will ultimately lead the child up a road of insecurity..
that's how it did my 1/2sister.. she is one of the most insecure people that i know.. i don't know if pagents are to blame or simply her upbringing altogether..
but, i think it manipulates the values of what's truly important in being a woman; looking nice vs being intelligent.
Children are pure.. still innocent.. they need not fake hair, make-up, etc etc... i'm not for dressing up your child in "mature" clothing either.. let the kid be a kid, not a barbie.
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Post by Auset on Nov 10, 2003 7:58:38 GMT -5
How where your sisters childhood pagents? Could you tell me a bit more I am interested in this I don't know why but I watch all those documenteries and I just find it intersting how vindictive the partents can be when they don't win which the child is looking at like they did something wrong you know?
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Post by The_Realist on Nov 10, 2003 8:20:04 GMT -5
well, they weren't nothing like the ones today or the ones i've seen on TV...
she didn't have fake hair or anything.. just a bathing suit, a dress, and etc... nothing fake.. they ask them simple questions like "who is your role model, why?" and etc.... they had to take dance classes and etc.. she's older than me by 22months.. so, i only remember alil bit of it.. but i do know she won 3rd place.. has a lil' trophy with a Star ontop of it.. she only did a couple pagents and i know my mother didn't force her into it.. it was her choice and my mother didn't over-do it.. shew, we never had the money to over-do it.. ha.
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Post by Auset on Nov 10, 2003 8:25:18 GMT -5
I feel you there! In the pagents that you remember her going to was she one of the few african american children? Did an african american child win first place?
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Post by The_Realist on Nov 10, 2003 9:22:32 GMT -5
she's not African American, so i really couldn't tell you... but no, do not recall any African-American Princesses there... mainly caucasion event..and even on the documentaries i have viewed, it's very rare that i see African American children on there.
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Post by Tori on Nov 13, 2003 12:39:01 GMT -5
HELLO! I'm a Beauty Queen and a Pageant Princess and I'm willing to tell all about what it taught me: 1. I'm pretty "for a black girl" 2. How to judge other women solely on looks 3. The Art of the Weave 4. I'm better than other people because I was blessed with nice features 5. To prance in front of people and wait to be judged 6. How to wave from the backseat of a convertible 7. True intelligence is no competition for puppetry 8. Never speak your mind only say what others want to hear For real y’all I was greased up and trained like a little monkey just to win that stuff and it spilled over into my true self. I worried about what other people thought it turned me into something like a magical mirror. You could look at me and see whatever you wanted and I was willing to be that just to gain your approval. Always on the homecoming court, prom princess, then prom queen, best dressed. That stuff mattered I needed those votes and at the same time I could never let on how much I needed other peoples approval. First semester freshman year I was asked to be Miss Omega Psi Phi and all the girls wanted that but I got it. On the night of coronation I got all dolled up, had my braids styled, and was walking across campus. I got to the auditorium and looked in I saw my escort and all the other girls, but I knew I did not want to be there…so…I just walked back to my dorm laughed about it with my friends and never felt better in my life! All the crowns I had never felt so good as walking away that night did and I know I’m better for it. I stopped looking for approval in people and adopted the love me or leave me logo. I took out my braids and I didn’t even care that everyone on campus called me Angie Stone I was feeling good! ;D On a more positive note I’m still going to school on Pageant money and I have enough for grad school too!  |
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Post by The_Realist on Nov 13, 2003 12:46:28 GMT -5
"my my my". ..at least you got money out of it..  ..sounds like you found your true beauty through it in the long run though, which is wonderful.. more than most people in America (pagented, or not) can say about theirselves. Much Love and Respect Sister. |
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