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Post by The_Realist on Feb 28, 2005 19:56:05 GMT -5
What would you do if you had access to your man/woman's call records? Would you check it?
And if you did, and you saw a suspicious number on there, would you call it?
And if you called it, and come to find out, it's a member of the same sex as you (opposite sex of the significant other) that you don't recognize as being a family member...what would you do then?
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Tisha
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Post by Tisha on Mar 2, 2005 12:45:34 GMT -5
I wouldn't call it because you goin' have to trust the person you are with. If they are with you, you have to believe that they are ever so faithful reguardless of how many numbers they keep. But don't be stupid if you feel he has given you a reason to be suspicious then you need to take what you feel the appropriate action should be.
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Divine Justice
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Post by Divine Justice on Apr 5, 2005 16:19:27 GMT -5
Well I've been there too many times since my man came home. I don't call numbers back but Yeah I check messages. Tisha u r right u have 2 trust your Man/Woman. But hell I'm human.
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Post by The_Realist on Apr 6, 2005 18:27:34 GMT -5
well, i have access.. and i swear mess has opened a pandoras box on the matter.
trust? yeah, i trust him, but... aye, i'm keeping everything in check.
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Post by Craig on Apr 14, 2005 0:36:15 GMT -5
You think he been (possibly) cheatin' on you with another dude?
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Post by The_Realist on Apr 14, 2005 14:25:14 GMT -5
oh of course not.
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Post by Justin on Apr 14, 2005 16:41:09 GMT -5
Nah, I wouldn't check unless she gave me a reason to. Tisha is right, you have to have trust and that goes for her too! I wouldn't want her to be checkin' behind me, where is the trust?
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Post by jamadianUK on Apr 16, 2005 12:07:19 GMT -5
What was you doing checking the phone in the 1st place, if you didnt trust you partner? That answers your questions right away.
I would'nt bother checking, you always know when someone is stepping out regardless. Finding extra evidence is pointless majority of the times, and only builds your mistrust fro the next unfortunate soul trying to maintain a realtionship with your issues and doubts.
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Post by Msmoore on Apr 16, 2005 16:04:42 GMT -5
Well I did have access and boy oh boy did I have a ball, I looked for trouble and damn did I find it!!!! I started using names in conversations saying stuff like I had a dream about this name?? do you know anyone by that name? oh it was tooooo funny I really did some childish Isht!! like erasing messages and females would be like why haven't you called me!!! I thought we were meeting here for lunch!!! I am soo glad I am past that now I was a lot younger, you get exactly what you look for!!!!
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Post by The_Realist on Apr 17, 2005 11:24:15 GMT -5
yeah... when you go looking where you have no business looking, you end up finding what you didn't want to find.
but, my thing is... it shouldn't be there whether i look or not.
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Post by Msmoore on Apr 17, 2005 16:14:49 GMT -5
True, True, True,...... I whole heartedly agree!!!!
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Post by jamadianUK on Apr 18, 2005 7:48:25 GMT -5
I've had my phone and personal items 'missing' for further evidence many times and have yet to cheat on anyone ( and don't plan to either ). I hate that people mistrust you just because 'soposed evidence' states you are guilty. I understand when brothers state that cannot deal with some of the issues sisters bring to the table, and why they are so fearful of having soild, trust worthy, stress free realtionships with us (I'm talking to all females on this one).
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Post by Auset on Apr 18, 2005 10:58:48 GMT -5
Think about if it were you. I have alot of male friends and am very upfront about that but try to still keep respect in mind. Knowing this it is very possible for someone to call anyone of my friends and it has happened to me before. One time it blew up really bad and then another time let's just say he still doesn't know that I know. I didn't even bring it up but I didn't like being checked up on. If I tell you what the deal is you should care enough to believe me. Now I'm not saying be stupid about it but try to put your self in that position. Think about a good friend you haven't talked to in a long time. Would you like for him to do that to you. But as always you must keep your eyes open. If it sounds like new friends and the behaviour is different that's when you have to be like okay, what's going on? But instead of dialing number sit him down and express your feelings. It's corny but it works much better. let him know what you expect and dont expect.
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Post by The_Realist on Apr 18, 2005 14:33:14 GMT -5
i've had folks go through my phone and what not before... and i'm like this "do you"... if going through my phone will help you have some extra reassurance, feel free. i'm a real honest and straight up person, and there's not a single person that calls my phone that doesn't know my man's name.
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Post by Auset on Apr 19, 2005 6:33:45 GMT -5
I would really just sit him down and let him know how you feel. I wouldn't be too worried about it unless his behaviour has changed. If he treats you differently then you really need to speak up about it.
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