Divine Justice
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Post by Divine Justice on Oct 25, 2005 9:33:07 GMT -5
Me and my man got into a big argument because I blew up for him saying these words "Wait a Second". Now usually it doesn't bother me and I brush it off but this has become a regular thing. I seem to have to wait for a second which turns into mins, hours, or isn't done at all. Now I'm not waiting for him to do anything important he''s ususally playing his ps2, on the comp, or watching a movie he can pause.
Fam what I need to know is am I selfish for wanting attention at the specific time I ask for it???
It's not like I ask him to drop what he's doing all the time I just need for him to sometimes do the little things so I know he cares.
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Post by Auset on Oct 25, 2005 9:54:29 GMT -5
You are not neccesarily being selfish. I don't think so at least. There needs to be some type of compromise. Talk to him and let him know how you feel. Straight up, look I don't mind you playing your games or on the computer but I do need some attention and I don't think that everytime I ask you something i should be told just a second. How would you feel if I did that to you? But I wont even resort to doing that but I will tell you this, I need you to come half way with me.
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Divine Justice
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Post by Divine Justice on Oct 25, 2005 9:57:44 GMT -5
Tried that didn't work maybe because I yelled more then talked but it' been 4 days and we've maybe said 50 words to each other.
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Post by Auset on Oct 25, 2005 10:04:03 GMT -5
Yeah that's just the thing cuz you got to come at em in a way he wont expect calm as the day you were born and straight lipped. He wont expect you to come at him like that so you say what you got to say let him know you mean business and then call it a day.
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Post by Fela on Oct 25, 2005 10:12:01 GMT -5
We don't know each other so if I'm out of line
please don't hesitate to say so but...
Try talking again , the air gets heavy when there's a problem
that isn't resolved and it's hard for both parties to breath easy.
Sometimes the other person isn't ready but having a partner who can and will listen when you're ready can be a gift.
I wish you all the best ~ Fela
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Lady
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Post by Lady on Oct 26, 2005 15:06:56 GMT -5
I got to agree with Fela, my man and I broke it off because the communication wasn't there so try the talking, but just time just talk. Yelling and screaming will not solve anything but I do feel your frustration. I don't like to be put on the backburner for a video game.
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Divine Justice
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I'm a POOH @ heart...
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Post by Divine Justice on Oct 26, 2005 16:05:34 GMT -5
Thank you guys. I took your sdvice and we talked. I hope it helped because I love this man to death.
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Post by Fela on Oct 26, 2005 16:59:47 GMT -5
I'll say a prayer for you both.
All the best ~ Fela
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Divine Justice
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Post by Divine Justice on Nov 4, 2005 9:04:57 GMT -5
Well the talk didn't help because once again we got into it. But this time I think I got to him because he finally opened up and told me a couple of things thats been bothering him about me. It was on my vm but now at least I know. So what I'm going to do is take him to dinner and we are going to put everything out on the table. I refuse to go into the new year with this situation. So prayers for my sanity. Cause men can be so stubborn and pigheaded sometimes.  Love you men, but u know it's true. |
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Post by calilady on Nov 11, 2005 17:35:46 GMT -5
Me and my man got into a big argument because I blew up for him saying these words "Wait a Second". Now usually it doesn't bother me and I brush it off but this has become a regular thing. I seem to have to wait for a second which turns into mins, hours, or isn't done at all. Now I'm not waiting for him to do anything important he''s ususally playing his ps2, on the comp, or watching a movie he can pause. No you're not being selfish, you just need some attention. Men don't always get that we women need them to show us some affection even though they are in the same room with us they feel that they are providing all the necessary attention. WRONG!!! Let him know that you need time for the 2 of you to spend together Fam what I need to know is am I selfish for wanting attention at the specific time I ask for it??? It's not like I ask him to drop what he's doing all the time I just need for him to sometimes do the little things so I know he cares. |
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Lady
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Post by Lady on Nov 14, 2005 13:50:31 GMT -5
YOu know we got you on the prayers and much love and luck to you. I know it has to be a little hard to know that the guy you love has issues with you.
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Divine Justice
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I'm a POOH @ heart...
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Post by Divine Justice on Nov 15, 2005 8:07:30 GMT -5
Thank you and yes it's hard but it's what i need to improve on what I'm lacking in this relationship. It's hard when you have to look at yourself and see your own faults, but I'm dealing with it. We are getting along pretty well right now.
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Lady
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Post by Lady on Nov 16, 2005 13:42:16 GMT -5
That's good.
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Post by Justin on Nov 22, 2005 22:11:44 GMT -5
Fam what I need to know is am I selfish for wanting attention at the specific time I ask for it??? I don't think so, but at what times are you requesting his attention is my question? |
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Post by Justin on Nov 22, 2005 22:13:51 GMT -5
...cause I gotta say I'm 50/50 with this cause I'm a gamer and 'the game' is sometimes on your mind or you're at a major part in the game and you just want to finish. I know it sounds selfish but I'm sure all my gamers know what I'm talkin' bout. It's not meant to be a disrespect to you but if he's totally into the game and really never into you then that's different. I'm talkin' about 'sometimes.'
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Love you men, but u know it's true.
